18 and still dealing with erection problems, I need more help
So basically I have another post on this site that basically said I couldn't get an erection and I'm only 18. When I'm with my girl, no matter what happens, I never stay hard. I can sometimes get hard but it quickly dies down in like a minute and then I have pre *** in my pants which is weird. So basically at one point I wasn't getting hard... At all. Now when I watch porn and masturbate I can get hard, it takes a minute to get hard but it does get hard, now the messed up part is that as soon as I stop stimulating myself, I mean literally within seconds it dies down and I have to work it up. I've also been waking up with like semi hard erections and I'm completely thinking I'll never be able to have sex with my girl or have children in the future. I'm not sure what to do but all advice helps, also I use to watch a lot of porn and masturbate about 2-4 times a day for like 2 years, maybe over masturbation? I'm not sure, it's almost like I can't get stimulated enough, before I could just hug a girl and get super hard, now it's like nothing happens. This all started about 8 months ago when I was getting a bj from my girl and I didn't get hard, I tried to have sex with her a week later and I couldn't get hard, it's been a downward spiral since! I can't tell you if the problem started before it but it was the first time I couldn't get hard in my life, maybe I couldn't get hard before 8 months ago, but only then I noticed. Any thoughts???
Re: 18 and still dealing with erection problems, I need more help
Your penis and brain are very intimately attached and most likely you are so worried about not getting hard or staying hard that your brain is cutting your erections short. This is a common thing for guys. You have to have the right situation, the right girl and a feeling of being comfortable with what you are doing.
I would stop masturbating and looking at porn for a week and just give it a rest. Then try when you are in a totally safe, comfortable situation and just concentrate on the good feelings in your penis and see how it goes. If things still don't work properly it maybe time for a visit to the doc for a testosterone and thyroid test.
At this point its almost 90% likely the problem is mental rather than physical.
Re: 18 and still dealing with erection problems, I need more help
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Originally Posted by orion
Your penis and brain are very intimately attached and most likely you are so worried about not getting hard or staying hard that your brain is cutting your erections short. This is a common thing for guys. You have to have the right situation, the right girl and a feeling of being comfortable with what you are doing.
I would stop masturbating and looking at porn for a week and just give it a rest. Then try when you are in a totally safe, comfortable situation and just concentrate on the good feelings in your penis and see how it goes. If things still don't work properly it maybe time for a visit to the doc for a testosterone and thyroid test.
At this point its almost 90% likely the problem is mental rather than physical.
Ok so check this out, yesterday me and my girfriend had sex, at first I didn't get hard and so she gave me a bj and my penis came about 80% hard. Then she rubbed her vagina against my penis and it became hard and we had sex until I orgasmed, then about 15 minutes later we did the same thing but I lost my erection after having sex with her for a couple minutes, maybe because my penis was tired? But what I'm not understanding is why I'm not getting hard all the time like when we just kiss and stuff, it shouldn't take me rubbing my penis on her vagina right? I'm only 18 too so I'm worried. Any more advice? I remember last year I'd get hard from holding a girl, now it takes work. Idk what's wrong with me )':
Re: 18 and still dealing with erection problems, I need more help
First, not that many guys can have completely hard erections 15 minutes after ejaculating. You aren't a machine - so it's not surprising you lost your 2nd erection. That situation could easily be normal for you and a lot of other guys too. Stop testing your self over and over to prove you are ok and then feeling bad when you think you have failed. I repeat, you are not a machine, you are a human male who has conditions that must be met before you can sustain an erection.
Second, perhaps you have issues with this particular gf that is causing you to require more stimulation - such issues could be things like not completely trusting her, or worries about pregnancy, or other unrelated concerns; including depression (thyroid related?).
Third, it is possible you have some physical issues that might include a thyroid or testosterone problem. If it persists I would visit the doc and have blood tests just to be sure things are normal and mean time pick up some Cialis and see if the problem disappears with some chemical help. If you have no problems with Cialis, its most likely a psychological thing, if you still have problems then a physical problem is more indicated.
Re: 18 and still dealing with erection problems, I need more help
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Originally Posted by orion
First, not that many guys can have completely hard erections 15 minutes after ejaculating. You aren't a machine - so it's not surprising you lost your 2nd erection. That situation could easily be normal for you and a lot of other guys too. Stop testing your self over and over to prove you are ok and then feeling bad when you think you have failed. I repeat, you are not a machine, you are a human male who has conditions that must be met before you can sustain an erection.
Second, perhaps you have issues with this particular gf that is causing you to require more stimulation - such issues could be things like not completely trusting her, or worries about pregnancy, or other unrelated concerns; including depression (thyroid related?).
Third, it is possible you have some physical issues that might include a thyroid or testosterone problem. If it persists I would visit the doc and have blood tests just to be sure things are normal and mean time pick up some Cialis and see if the problem disappears with some chemical help. If you have no problems with Cialis, its most likely a psychological thing, if you still have problems then a physical problem is more indicated.
Ok what's thyroid? And I have absolutely no problem with her, she's perfect to me. Honestly I can't get hard with any girl. It all happened when one day I went to have sex with her for the first time (same girl) and it just didn't get hard! I really don't know if I couldn't get hard before that and I jus never realized it but it was for sure the first time I noticed it. Another thing, I've been getting random erections again and it gets hard for a while but still when I wake up in the morning it's like 1/2 hard and I'm not sure why
Re: 18 and still dealing with erection problems, I need more help
-STATUS UPDATE-
As of the last 2 weeks I've gotten random erections throughout the day that last from 5-10 minutes without me stimulating myself. Also when I watch porn I get full erections again and I'm able to keep it for a while without stimulation. Now I have had sex with girlfriend about 3 times. I'd say my erection was about 90% but I was able to go until I finished. Now also when we are just touching or she teases me my penis gets fully hard but when I think about sex or she takes off her clothes my erection dies. Also if she gives me a bj it's hard to get fully erect and when it does get fully hard the second she stops to get on top I lose it. So I guess the new question is am I suffering from a thyroid problem, a venous leak or just a really bad case of performance anxiety? Also the one time we had sex and my penis was 100% hard I was high, any insight helps guys, thanks
