I came across this board looking up some information about Venous Leak. My husband was diagnosed with this a few years back. In my searching I found many forum posts, here and elsewhere with guys extremely distraught and self-conscious about this condition.
I'm sad that so many guys think that this is "the end" for them. Indeed doctors don't have many answers. But I want to let you guys know that this diagnosis is not the end of your sex life, and that you don't have to be embarrassed.
We discovered my husbands leak when we were dating (I since married him!) and he went through many doctors and tried various pills and injections with my support. In the end, we said no to the implant and found our own way. I want to say that when you find the right woman or partner, and if you're open and honest, then you don't have to avoid sex or be shy about it. The right person will work with you to have fun in a way that works for you.
We found a good pace and positions that work for us. We use one of the ED medications which helps a little bit. We go through foreplay more quickly (lots of kissing and snuggles at other times) and penetration happens briefly or sometimes we skip it. We try other things in bed and he can manually stimulate me like a genius
. We have a lot of fun with what works for us, and as a woman I feel he rocks my world even with a Venous Leak affecting his erections. We have 2 kids and another on the way, all conceived the natural way.
With a patient and open lover and some creativity a Venous Leak is just a challenge to be overcome. So if you feel you've had no luck with treatments... I recommend focusing on finding the right partner... don't be shy... just be honest and willing to be a generous lover to your partner and find someone who will do the same for you.