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Old 11-20-2003, 04:44 AM   #1
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Tips for Anal

Hi guys
My girlfriend and i would like to try anal sex but we are a little worried about several things. Can it get super messy?Of course she will go to the toilet before we try it but is it still quite messy/smelly, as that may be somewhat of a turnoff. Lube is a necessity right? just get KY or something or would olive oil or something be ok? I will definitely use a condom for it but is there a position which is recommended for her comfort? I am worried that i may hurt her. Any other hints or tips would be greatly appreciated.
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Old 11-20-2003, 05:22 AM   #2
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Re: Tips for Anal

Do a search on the web for anal intercourse.
Definitely use lubrcation. I don't know about using olive oil. I have never tried it. One main area of discomfort and pain is at the entry point where the sphincter muscles are. So be very gentle when getting past it and throughout the rest of the session.
It is not always messy and smelly. It may depend on the person's diet. If you have a good fiber diet the stool tends to be solid and compact and goes through clean.
The last time I performed anal sex it was clean and oderless, but still when I pulled out, the girl jumps out of bed and runs straight to the bathroom and closes the door. All I heard after that were some strong air sounds. She was OK though and came out smiling.

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Old 11-20-2003, 06:57 AM   #3
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Re: Tips for Anal

Dont be so afraid. As said by Hoop do a good search in net, there are many valuable places to find help. Planty of lub, ideally not vaseline based one. Be as gently as you can. On position there can be many, also the misionary one works, also she on top, so she can regulate the penetration to control pain (it can be quite painfull if you are forcefull or rough). Fingering also is quite helpfull, but I guess you will find much more tips on the web.

It can be quite enjoyable for both of you.

 
Old 11-21-2003, 09:27 PM   #4
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Re: Tips for Anal

if your girlfriend has never done this before, maybe u should try fingers first or a small anal *****. That way u start off slow and she tell u if it's going to be something she feels she can handle or not.

 
Old 11-22-2003, 01:24 AM   #5
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listen man from one freak to another if you want to enjoy it for the first time try this .at the adult bookstore near you they sell this anal lube that's like oragel like you put on a tooth ache but don't use oragel but this lube takes numbs her anal up [...] it's call analese.

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Old 11-27-2003, 09:18 PM   #6
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Re: Tips for Anal

To prevent some of the potential "messiness" you may want her to take an enema a few hours before you plan on having anal sex.

 
Old 11-30-2003, 12:26 PM   #7
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i think astroglide is the best for anal, ky wasn't that great for it.
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Old 12-01-2003, 01:03 PM   #8
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Re: Tips for Anal

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To prevent some of the potential "messiness" you may want her to take an enema a few hours before you plan on having anal sex.
Where do you get an enema? Is it easy to self administer? And how long does it take to work? I've had anal sex a few times and one embarrasing time, I had an accident during, which has severley scared me from trying it again. But I would only consider it if i knew more about the enemas

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Old 12-01-2003, 03:15 PM   #9
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There are various kinds of enemas. Probably the easiest to use and the one which requires the least amount of preparation is called a Fleet enema. You get it at a pharmacy (you can find it in a green box in same section where they sell laxatives for about $1.50). The Fleet enema is premeasured (about 4oz) and is in a disposable squeeze bottle with a pre-lubricated tip. There are directions on the box on how to administer it. Basically you just lie down insert the tip into your anus and squeeze the contents into your rectum. Then wait about three to five minutes until you have a strong urge to have a bowel movement. After you go to the bathroom you probably want to wait an hour or so in case you have to go again before you have anal. When you do have anal be sure to use lots of lubricant to ease things up.

 
Old 12-01-2003, 11:45 PM   #10
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I was scared to try anal but its not so bad. I have never had a problem with mess or smell, and i've now done it quite a few times. Even if I haven't gone to the washroom in awhile there has never been mess. I have used just an oil for lube which worked. A good position is spooning, but doggy and girl on top is also ok. Even though I have done it quite a few times, some times work better than others. Some of the times now are most painful than the first time. After anal I have sometimes experienced slight soreness and difference in bowel movements, usually harder to go to the washroom for some reason. But I think you have nothing to lose, just try it and try to have fun.

 
Old 12-03-2003, 07:01 PM   #11
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OK all you guys from a womans point of view time. I have done it and it is great BUT I have to be in control of it. I get on top and move back and forth with his penis in between my butt cheeks, it helps the muscles relax. Then i am like standing/ squatting I make sure he's lubed by regular intercourse that way then hold the butt cheeks apart and slowly I go up and down, until he is in. Other then that I don't use any types of lubes. I know thats very graphic but only way I can explain. The air noises are trapped air from the movements. VERY IMPORTANT: DO NOT PUSH AT ALL TIL SHE SAYS OK.

 
Old 12-22-2003, 10:49 PM   #12
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Chances are you will not be able to do it, or do it for very long on the first try. It seems to be something the girl has to get used to step by step, finger is a good starter in my opinon. My boyfriend and I enjoy it, but only once a month. We make sure to do it in the shower because its easy if you have to....er...clean up. its only happened to me once, btu Im gald I was in the shower!
My partner does not prefer this over sex (thankfully), its just a different feeling for him. I suppose its different for everyone, but worth a shot.

 
Old 12-23-2003, 10:59 AM   #13
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ok this is a kinda gross question, but after having had anal, im finding it difficult to keep down there cleaned up completely after a bowel movement. i'm a clean/germ freak so this is very bothersome. i use wet wipes too. any suggestions?
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Old 12-27-2003, 09:57 AM   #14
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Re: Tips for Anal

There are entire websites devoted to this question. Check 'em out. When you think you have too much lube, that's when you have enough. Start small, take it slow, very slow... maybe nothing more than a finger or small soft *****, which is preferable since you fingernail could cut her. You also need lots and lots of foreplay and she needs to be very relaxed. She could have a little acohol to relax, but not so much that she wouldn't notice if there is a problem.
I've never had a problem with smells or it being very messy. Not that I've had it often, but a few times. Oh - ignore EVERYTHING you may have seen in any porno!

 
Old 01-15-2004, 05:04 AM   #15
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The whole "messy" question comes down to what type of stool the person has. If they have normal stools then it shouldnt be a problem because they are solid enough. Think of it like playdough. If you stick your finger into a ball of playdough you simply move the playdough to form around your finger and it doesnt stick to your finger. Does that make any sense?

It is up to the person receiving anal sex to know if they have the ability to do it without cleansing themself out. Personally whenever I receive anal sex I always give myself a home type of enema/douche. I use an old shampoo bottle and fill it with water and lying on my back squirt it into my anus. I do this a few times until I've cleansed myself out enough. I have to do this because I always have soft stools and anal sex would be quite nasty if I didnt take this precaution.
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