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Old 11-24-2003, 05:58 PM   #1
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Help me help my husband.....

My husband and I are searching for a way to help stop his premature ejaculation. We have been together for nearly four years, and are both in our 30's. He is less than three minutes after penetration. The internet search engines are hopeless as they are all just ads for creams or pills, or paid for physical tehcniques. Is there someone out there that can guide us to the proper path? He in uncomfortable speaking with our physician about this, so this is my only recouse. Please advise if you can. Thank you!

 
Old 11-24-2003, 06:08 PM   #2
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Re: Help me help my husband.....

1st of all, Hi, & welcome!

There are forums here on this board that kinda go together, so I'm sure between them & the people who wander over & post from each, someone will be able to help. I know I've seen posts about this before, so someone should know something.

I know in the past I've seen something related to this topic & numbing cream was suggested. I don't know if you've tried it.....basically, the more info you give about what you may have tried, the better the responses will be.

Hopefully someone with more info than I have will see this & post. Good luck!
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Old 11-24-2003, 06:13 PM   #3
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Re: Help me help my husband.....

HI! Thank you for your reply! We have tried the numbing cream, and frankly, I'm quite sensitive there,and it gave me one he** of a yeast infection. Also, he complained that it made him totally loose his erection. We also tried the squeeze method, and again, I couldn't do it right, and he is not comfortable doing it in front of me..... I'm just at a loss here.

 
Old 11-24-2003, 06:28 PM   #4
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Re: Help me help my husband.....

Perhaps he can masturbate more often to de-sensitize.

 
Old 11-24-2003, 08:07 PM   #5
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Re: Help me help my husband.....

One suggestion would be for him to masturbate before hand, but seeing that he embarrasses easily he may object to this. He could also try doing it twice in a row! It's kinda like the masturbating thing but both of you get in on the action and since it takes longer for women to orgasm maybe he could keep you occupied while he waits for round two. Another suggestion would be for him to stop intercourse when he feels a climax coming and starting again after the feeling subsides another version of this is you or him getting him worked up(by hand) then letting him lose the erection, repeat this several times over a period of time. Apparently this works up a sort of tolerance(I live in Canada and watch alot of the Sunday Night Sex show which features people phoning in with their questions that are answered by a nurse).

If none of this works and this is a major issue between the two of you you may want to try to get him to go for medical advice. You may want to go with him for support if it will help or you may want to run it by the doctor yourself and see what he thinks(you may want to ask your husband about this first).

 
Old 11-25-2003, 05:53 AM   #6
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Re: Help me help my husband.....

Thank you so much! I'm really glad I stumbled onto this website. I can't wait to show him the responses we've gotten! This definately helps us find direction. Maybe he could start with the masturbation in the shower before hand to keep the embarassment level down...... This could really work! You see, he can can count on one hand using only three fingers how many women he has slept with. Excluding me, he doesn't have to take his shoes off to count the number of times he's had sex. It had never been anything important to him, ie. his family's sick work ethic. Don't get me wrong, I work like a dog too, but there comes a time when you have to remember you're still a man and woman. Thank you again for your help!

 
Old 11-25-2003, 09:24 AM   #7
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Hi HPC,

I just thought I'd throw in my 2 cents on this one. Fortunately, I've never suffered from premature ejaculation on a 3 minute time frame, but in my 'younger' days I was often way too quick for both my wife and I. Due to who-knows-why, about 10 years ago I started having erection difficulties and they were in no way psychological. Thank god Viagra came along so I could return to reality. Interestingly, Viagra had a duel 'benefit' for me. I noticed right off the bat that I had no premature problems while engaged in viagra-assisted sex. In fact, it was quite the opposite. Since then there have been numerous times that I've way outlasted my wife (on Viagra) almost to the point where she's reminding me every other minute, "You can finish now!" LOL The first couple times this happened to me, I almost paniced, but eventually nature took its sought-after course. I've done alot of reading and research on viagra-based boards and articles and have found this by-blow of Viagra to be consistant with just about every guy who's tried it. In fact, it's one of those not-well-known side affects that truly annoy viagra users. In conclusion, I truly believe Viagra is the best answer out there right now for premature ejaculation, and as a bonus for the woman, you'll have a righteously rigid pull-toy to amuse yourself with.

As for your man's discomfort with talking to a doctor, perhaps you could go to bat for him. When you meet with your own family doctor, you might mention (perhaps a bit of crafty fabrication would be in order here) that your man is suffering from erectile difficulties and would Dr. he/she have a viagra sample that hecould try. Believe me, most family practitioners won't hesitate to dispense a sample of Viagra if your man is too self-conscious to talk about this 'problem.' They truly do want to help.

Sorry for rambling like a mad fool, but I'm positive this is your answer. Good luck and I hope to hear feedback from you at some point in the near future.

 
Old 11-25-2003, 11:22 AM   #8
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Re: Help me help my husband.....

Camden has a good suggestion: ask your husband to try masturbating right up to -- but not beyond! -- the point of orgasm. If he does this a number of times (maybe 5 or 6) he may start to become more tolerant of the stimulation, develop more control and be less likely to ejaculate prematurely.

If that doesn't work, dljw2000 is right on the money about Viagra. One unintended side-effect of "V" is delaying the man's orgasm -- sometimes a bit too much if you're taking a large dose. In your husband's case, since he doesn't seem to have problems with his erections, a very small dose would probably suffice (perhaps 12.5mg, or 1/8 of a 100mg pill).

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Old 11-25-2003, 02:48 PM   #9
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Re: Help me help my husband.....

Some more suggestions:

Try a little less numbing cream AND use a condom. This will prevent the cream from bothering you, and using less will not make him lose his erection so easily.

Do to stop and start method. It may drive you nuts - just as it starts to feel good, he has to stop and pull out - but doing this will often cause a degree of de-sensitivity with him. Hopefully, after a few times of this, he can last longer.

Have him get you off orally or manually, so if he climaxes early, you will at least have had some degree of satisfaction.

Have more sex. If you only do it, say, once a week, he will be fully charged each time and ready to cut lose immediately upon entering you. Have sex everyday for a while to partially drain him down. He can then better learn techniques to delay his orgasm.

 
Old 11-26-2003, 06:56 AM   #10
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Re: Help me help my husband.....

There are several devices that he can wear on his penis (it's called a "c*ck ring") that should allow him to last longer. I know first-hand that they work. Try a google search on that.

 
Old 11-26-2003, 10:08 PM   #11
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Re: Help me help my husband.....

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Originally Posted by camden
One suggestion would be for him to masturbate before hand, but seeing that he embarrasses easily he may object to this. He could also try doing it twice in a row! It's kinda like the masturbating thing but both of you get in on the action and since it takes longer for women to orgasm maybe he could keep you occupied while he waits for round two. Another suggestion would be for him to stop intercourse when he feels a climax coming and starting again after the feeling subsides another version of this is you or him getting him worked up(by hand) then letting him lose the erection, repeat this several times over a period of time. Apparently this works up a sort of tolerance(I live in Canada and watch alot of the Sunday Night Sex show which features people phoning in with their questions that are answered by a nurse).

If none of this works and this is a major issue between the two of you you may want to try to get him to go for medical advice. You may want to go with him for support if it will help or you may want to run it by the doctor yourself and see what he thinks(you may want to ask your husband about this first).
one thing about masturbating first is that the errection will not be as hard. any one have same experience?

 
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