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After 9/11 my husband went through some major issues that hurt both him and our already shaky relationship. In the pasted two year a lot has happened he went through a major " Break down" that put him in a hospital. hurt me by saying some things that he knew would hurt the most, he said that he did not find me attractive and never could then said u don't want me to lie do U? I know he was sick at the time but I really can't forgive him, he said sorry but he has not shown he was sorry. Words are so cheap; his actions show me nothing. We have two children under ten. Sometimes when I speak with him he has this blank look, and gives me no response at all. He is under the care of a doctor, although I question and he needs to be responsible for himself. I need to let go of trying to "Help" him he has gone off the meds once and will probably do it again.
Last night we has another of the same augment he has said that I am attractive he want to stay married although the man never touches me, hold me, compliment me, or pursues me. The only way I can get any Adult contact is when I ask for it. The only way I get a compliment is when I drag it out of him. I feel I am staving for intimate human contact and the kicker is that I am married. He is a good dad to his kids, we both work hard at our jobs to keep that house going.
I figure if I can just hold on till the kids are older, but this is just so hard. I need Intimate contact, I am so sick of "asking" for it. and if I wait him out it will never happen I tried once for about four months and nothing. any suggestions? Thanks
Last edited by help16; 11-28-2003 at 08:20 AM.