the grass is NEVER greener on the other side. usually when people in comitted or married relationships, that arent getting what they need from their partner, whether it me emotionally, physically etc. then you look elsewhere for it. not intentially, it just happens. you seek things you need, and are not recieving. i think it is definately worth talking and sorting out your problems with your husband----especially when their are kids involved! but if you are absolutely miserable then you need to think about what will make you, and your kids happier. really think about it, before attempting an affair, or seeking a relationship with another man. i was in your situation, married and a child by the time i was 21. my situation, we grew apart. good luck to you!