Sure, but men also like variety and they like to fantasize. With a picture of a wife or gf, there is little fantasy there and no variety. I mean, what they see is what they have had countless times already. This is why some men will look at porn on their computer when they have a ready and willing partner in the bedroom -- what they see on the computer (or in a magazine or video) is something they have not had who is very attractive. If he is on a business trip or something, taking along a picture of you might keep him occupied with only thoughs of you, but it won't work for all men all the time.
Magnetic- So they need variety. What kind of variety? For example I could think of a variety of different looks and poses but still it could be the same woman. Or does variety mean various different women? Are you saying that men need to cheat or do they only want to look at these women? If men need to cheat then why would they pretend to have a monogamous relationship? I don't get it. And if men can't have a monogamous relationship and if women need to have a monogamous relationship, then how can they ever compliment each other?
Hold on! You read too much into what I wrote. I was speaking in general terms.
But, by variety, males are programmed to have sex with as many women as they can to spread their seed around. Civilized man, of couse, attempts to restrict such activity once married for the good of society, but the urges are there none the less.
Most men who look at porn do not continually look at either a single picture or at a single lady. They may obsess over one lady for a while, until they grow tired and find someone else to look at. If this was not true, then we wouldn't need bookoo men's magazines and literally millions of pictures on the web - we would only need a few and we could be happy with them for the rest of our lives. But, no, we (well, maybe not ME) like to look at at a wide variety of photos.
As for pictures of yourself, a variety of poses, looks, clothes, settings, etc. will help keep him occupied. The more the better.
So, if men behave according to how they're programmed then the world will be destroyed either by overpopulation or by the angry women? And since that "urge" cannot be eliminated then men will in fact destroy the world (or the angry women)?
Still more questions:
And what would be the purpose of programming men only to destroy the world? Also, are they aware of this threat we're all facing? They must not be cause they keep on looking at the various photos and the population is getting real high!
Off topic here:
You said that you don't like to look at "a wide variety of photos". Is that a sign that you have been deprogrammed ? Please explain!
One more question:
It seems that I'm still very confused and I don't believe a lot of various photos of myself is going to solve my problem in the long run. So what would you advise to women as a defense? And men?
Wow, you are taking some liberties with what I am saying!
I will limit what I say, but if your man likes porn and you are wondering if he will give it up if he has some pictures of you naked, then I think the answer is no. Porn can be a powerful addiction because it affects our primal instincts - the instinct to procreate with healthy females (usually young and beautiful).
How do you defend yourself from it? Force him to limit his exposure to it. A little bit of erotica, especially if shared, can enhance a relationship, but when excessively viewed alone, it can definitely hurt it. Certainly there are better things in life to do that looking at porn for hour after hour.
I'm not really worried about it since I don't even have a boyfriend. I just thought it was funny when you said that men are programmed a certain way and all that. I admit I was playing with your words, but I wasn't trying to upset you...only being humorous really. Try to see the humor on this whole subject.
Also I'm pretty sure that women are half of the problem since they agree to being sex symbols to please men. I mean men are sexy too, but society says that women are supposed to be the sexy ones! Really society is the problem though. I think that men and and women should both be sexy and visual and all and I believe they really do share equal qualities in that sense, even though society doesn't portray it. But I guess we're not ready for real equality just yet. So I guess most people still would agree with you.
Anyway thanks for your input!
I am not upset at all! Perhaps I should have used "instinct" instead of "programmed". Humans can certainly choose to follow logic rather instinct, and our society and religion has effectively reined in our primal urges to procreate with any female we see. But, while we may not force ourselves on every pretty woman we see, most men will still look, and this explains the myriad of erotic material out there.
Erotic pictures of my wife turn me on more than pictures or movies of other women. I wish she would let me do more. We also have a array of digital pictures that I put to good use when she is not around. I just wish that she would feel a little more comfortable doing them and really let go. It is such a turn on for me to watch her masturbate on tape.
I speak in generalizations. There are plenty of exceptions. Woman can certainly be visual, and husbands can certainly find erotic pictures of their spouses more tantalizing than what they can find in a men's magazine. But, few women spend hours on the computer looking a pictures of naked men (it seems only men do this, and this hold for both gay and straight men). The sexual fantasies of men and woman are - in general - quite different.