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Old 12-08-2003, 08:23 PM   #1
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Weak Erection problem

I'm 22 years old and I just lost my virginity to my Girlfriend someone who I've never cared more for. I wanted to especially wait for her (the right one) and have shrugged away many opportunities as i was growing up. In order to keep my Sex drive down and not give into Intercourse besides foreplay I have always reffered back to Internet Porn and Self Pleasure (masturbation). The first night we had sex, it was very hard for me to get it up! and when i did it was very weak... but i finally got it hard enough to use it. After a few attempts i realised that my problem was that i would contract my Kegel muscles which would in turn inhibit me from reaching full erection.. So i learned to relax them and that helps a lot. here's my problem, when we are fooling around I will not even begin to develop an erection until she actually starts touching me, and when we get ready to have sex I loose it fast, and i have to sit there and play with myself to get it back up, that's IF it goes back up.. Now she's taking this very personally and it is effecting our relationship in a bad way.. I am very attracted to her and she thinks that I just like her for who she is, and that's it. I've personally diagnosed this as a Psychological problem.. What can i do to improve my state.. I've heard some talking about Yohimbe extract pills which can boost my sex drive up and open up my veins which in turn would increase my ease of developing an erection..

WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK I SHOULD DO?

-Danny

 
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Old 12-09-2003, 02:28 AM   #2
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Re: Weak Erection problem

Hey bud, stop worrying about it and focusing so much on making it work right...that can lead to more problems. Next time try to forget that you have a penis and focus on her....make sure she has a great time and don't even think about your past "issues" with erections. I suspect that the pressure you're putting on yourself is part of the problem. Let her masturbate you to orgasm, use alot of foreplay just have fun and try not to focus on your penis. I bet things will be just fine!

 
Old 12-09-2003, 03:49 AM   #3
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Re: Weak Erection problem

Hey Danny,
I used to have the exact same problem that you are having. I masturbated quite a bit before I had sex the first time, but I don't think that had anything to do with my abilities (or lack of)to have sex for the first time.. I think mine would go soft because I was very nervous about if I was doing it right and even more worried that the girl was thinking about me. I was so nervous about having sex the first time that I actually made myself sick and, of course, lil' willie didn't want to get up and had an extremely hard time maintaining enough of an erection to have sex. I know its hard not to worry, but try not to. Just try to chill out and good luck

 
Old 12-09-2003, 07:08 PM   #4
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Re: Weak Erection problem

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Hey Danny,
I used to have the exact same problem that you are having. I masturbated quite a bit before I had sex the first time, but I don't think that had anything to do with my abilities (or lack of)to have sex for the first time.. I think mine would go soft because I was very nervous about if I was doing it right and even more worried that the girl was thinking about me. I was so nervous about having sex the first time that I actually made myself sick and, of course, lil' willie didn't want to get up and had an extremely hard time maintaining enough of an erection to have sex. I know its hard not to worry, but try not to. Just try to chill out and good luck
See for a while i was doing ok when i was using the Potency Patch, and i ran out and now the problem is back, we tried having sex last night and I could get it hard, but right when i'm about to put it in, it goes limp.. Almost reminds me of a Venous leak, like i get the erection and loose it if there's no touching involved.. someone help!!!!

-Danny

 
Old 12-09-2003, 10:02 PM   #5
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i almost think it's your nerves. this is obviously a big deal to you since you waited so long and all. try relaxing more and don't jerk off for a while.
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