Re: Menopause is drving me nut
It is very unlikely, though maybe not impossible, that she will get pregnant. If it makes her feel safer, use condoms.
If you wait until you ejaculate to do anything about a lubrication problem, though, no wonder she hates sex. Get a good sex lubricant (not KY jelly-try something from a store where the specialize in adult toys and things) and use it from the beginning. Also, try to bring back some romanticism. Also, she needs to report this to her gynocologist. Some hormone replacement therapy may get things back on track. If that doesn't help, see about sex therapy (I know - it is highly unlikely she would ever try it, but it is worth a shot).