But i find myself wondering about being with other women. I'm 21, and everytime i go to the bar or club, i just want to hook up with someone. Oh, but wait! I;m engaged. :|
Tonight i talked to a girl i kinda know, and she is very hot. She told me if i were single, we would be hookin up right now. She also told me i could be doing better. I guess talking about, getting a better looking girl, like herself.
I love my fiance, but just seems like sometimes, i want to be single and "explore" my options. Is this normal?
Now you need to ask yourself if there's a good reason why you're feeling like this -- do you feel like you could do tons better than your fiancee? Do you love her? Could you spend the rest of your life with her?
Well it is normal in a since, but not totally. You don't ask a woman to marry you just so you can hook up at the bar. Maybe you need to stay away from the bar seen. I do because like you said women will approach you, say things to make you think and the next thing you know you have done a big no no. Me I don't go because I hate to even deal with that stuff, and I love my wife dearly so why even go. Next thing you need to take a look at is you, are you sure this is the woman you want to be with, if you are not 100% sure then you need too either slow down, or just put a hold on the whole thing all together. When I ask that I don't mean do you want to be with her, I mean with out a doubt can you, and do you want to be with her and her only. If there is one single doubt in your mine you need to take another look at your relationship with this lady before you do something wrong, most of all before you rip this girls heart out. There is nothing I would ever do in a million life times to disrespect my wife or to hurt her. I have to be away from her for a year and the sexual part of it does not bother me, being away from her does. When you have that, then you know it is time. I hope this helps if even a little bit buddy. Take care and good luck.
She is my entire world and life long love!
If you are thinking of other women in that way, then I am not sure you are really in love. If you feel this way now, when you are still free, how will you feel in a few years when she is pregnant and you are stuck?
I would advise that you call things off. Better to hurt her now and let her find someone who really loves her, and for you to sow some wild oats, than for her to have to divorce you after having your child and finding out you are cheating on her.
just my opinion--- i would wait! how you feel at 21, you may not feel the same at 30! just my experience, i got married at 21, divorced at 28. i felt completely different at those 2 ages. when you get married young, you tend to feel tied down. if your having these feelings now, then maybe pospone getting married. i mean who says you have to get married---right now. be in a relationship for a long time with this person, but you dont neccesarrily have to get married. maybe laterdown the road, when you feel more ready. we all change and grow--and keeping a marriage strong, means growing together.... not to mention alot of work!!!!
Getting married because you feel sorry for her is NOT a good reason to get married. I am sure she is a sweet girl and really loves you and you don't want to hurt her, but if you really, really loved her, you would not be having these feelings and you will certainly feel entrapped later. Also, if she really, really loved you, she would not use her tears to keep you, but would let you go to make sure she really is the right one for you.
A marriage might last, but the odds are against it and the odds are high that you will stray and end up causing her - and possible future children - a lot more pain later.
Please, break up with her now. If you two are meant to be, you will get back together later, when both of you will be more mature. It will hurt, but you know we are right.