i love my girlfriend very much and we've been together for over 2 years. sex was great and frequent but now i'd be lucky if we have sex once a week! i have a high sex drive and i think she doesn't, what am i to do?
i love my girlfriend very much and we've been together for over 2 years. sex was great and frequent but now i'd be lucky if we have sex once a week! i have a high sex drive and i think she doesn't, what am i to do?
Well you can calmly talk with her. By this I mean dont accuse her of anything,some people get it in their heads that it is the other person's fault either by not loving them enough or some other silly reason. Let her know how much you love her. Also let her know that you desire her and want to show it physically more than you currently are. You also have to consider her side,such as has the romance dropped off,is her work/school really stressful for her,is she on birth control and other things that can effect her sex drive. Also she maybe be more than content with once a week. You might have to arrange for certain nights/days are scheduled sex. I know doesnt sound like fun but you can make it fun if you work on it. You can see if she is willing to do that. Just make sure you reassure her that you love her and that you arent solely after her for sex. That can be a big turn off. Talking to her is your best bet.
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hey Taz1 tell me what you think we should do. i'm sure my girl loves me but i can't go and make her want me. know what i'm saying, and the problem is i think this girl is the one. there is seriously no problem with our relationship except for this. we
HAVE YOU TRIED ALCOHOL? Just kidding, really all a woman wants is to feel sexy, attractive, that is what gets us in the mood. Maybe take her out. I only see my lover every other weekend, so I can't say what our "normal" drive would be if we were together every day. But I can say that every other weekend, we can have sex up to 6 times a day. We really turn each other on and we go out and have fun and that is a turn on too. Sometimes it takes me the week and a half between seeing him just to get over the sore muscles.
Anyway, I'm not helping answer your question any. I have been married and once a week is pretty normal in a long term relationship.
I feel the same way, and I'm a female. I've been with my boyfriend for one year and we have sex about once a week, maybe a little bit less, too. We used to have sex once a day! Blahh. Anyway, I'm going to take the advice of those replying to this topic, too. Good luck with your situation.
