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Old 01-31-2004, 02:39 PM   #1
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Question Question about anal...

My boyfriend recently asked me if anal sex would be something I would be even remotely willing to consider. I think I am, but I am wondering if there is really anything that the female gets out of it, or if it is all for him. Like, it is never all about him, he always makes sure it is good for me too, but to me this seems like it would be very uncomfortable. If he and I were both not to stimulate me in any way, would it feel at all good to me, or would it only be him getting pleasure from it. Once again, I am willing to try this because my boyfriend always is open to trying things I want to do, I would just like a little bit of input on this. Thanks everyone.

 
Old 01-31-2004, 05:02 PM   #2
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Re: Question about anal...

Oh, I think both of you would enjoy it,but what ever you do use lots of lubrication and have him go VERY slowly when entering. As you get used to doing it, you can vary your enjoyment by using your hands to stimulate each other. Again, lots of lube. and go slow.
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Old 01-31-2004, 06:38 PM   #3
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Re: Question about anal...

If done slowly,and the woman is very relaxed and comfortable - anal sex can be very enjoyable w/o any outside stimulation. Some women even have orgasms during anal sex as well.

 
Old 01-31-2004, 10:13 PM   #4
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Re: Question about anal...

I still dont understand why a woman would enjoy that. I dont think i could ever do that to a woman. maybe i'm crazy but there's nothing erogenous deep inside your rectum!

 
Old 01-31-2004, 11:37 PM   #5
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Re: Question about anal...

actually, they say that a woman can get quite a bit from it. I tried anal a couple of times but it wasnt very good for me, but i was really trying to relax and not really concentrating on enjoying. Its very different but its something that i would like to try again. I think you should definately try it, but make it somethign you do over like a two week period or somethign. Take it really really slow. Believe me the sensation is unlike anything you have ever had before. But its still really neat.

 
Old 02-02-2004, 09:07 AM   #6
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Re: Question about anal...

The first time my boyfriend and I did it, it hurt really bad. But I heard that it doesn't hurt as much after the first time... so I let him do it. I liked it just as much as he did and now it doesn't hurt as much as it did.
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Old 02-02-2004, 12:00 PM   #7
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Re: Question about anal...

Hi there -- Good for you for being open-minded enough to consider trying anal sex. I'm lucky to have a GF who loves it, but even though she's "experienced" there are still some common-sense limitations. Keep these in mind and you'll probably not only tolerate anal sex, you'll enjoy it!

If anal sex is done right (lots of foreplay, lots of patience, lots of lube), there's no anatomical reason for it to be uncomfortable. When getting ready to be penetrated, keep in mind that you're not actually stretching the muscles down there, you're relaxing them.

The rectum has alot of nerve endings, and if your boyfriend proceeds slowly and gently you'll experience a pleasurable fullness. If his penis is longer than average it may start to hurt if he goes too deep, so guide him verbally and with your hands.

Also, your BF should be prepared not to thrust too hard, and to stop after just a minute or two if you ask him to. Unless you're a porn star, anal sex shouldn't be about longevity. It took my GF months to be able to take it long enough for me to ejaculate in her anus.

And don't make the mistake of thinking you'll acheive orgasm from anal sex alone; you'll probably need to stimulate your clitoris at the same time. One of the biggest turn-ons for my GF when we have anal sex is the mild feeling of submission, of "giving herself up" to this forbidden act. Sometimes that's all she wants from it, and we'll stop after a while and move on to other things (after I wash myself!); other times she'll masturbate with her fingers or a vibrator while I'm inside her anus, and we'll both experience mind-blowing orgasms.

So go for it! But above all be sure you and your BF are patient. Good luck...
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Old 02-02-2004, 12:31 PM   #8
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Re: Question about anal...

Anal sex can be a great, pleasurable experience if done correctly and patiently. Speaking from experience I used to think that it was definitely not for me but since I have met my current bf I have tried it and I will admit it is great. I actually get off a lot harder and a lot more from anal sex. But everyone is different and all I can say is it's worth a try. Be patient, go slow and use lot's of lube. Give it a few times before you decide on whether it's for you or not.

 
Old 02-03-2004, 06:31 AM   #9
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Re: Question about anal...

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Originally Posted by d_dixiechick
My boyfriend recently asked me if anal sex would be something I would be even remotely willing to consider. I think I am, but I am wondering if there is really anything that the female gets out of it, or if it is all for him. Like, it is never all about him, he always makes sure it is good for me too, but to me this seems like it would be very uncomfortable. If he and I were both not to stimulate me in any way, would it feel at all good to me, or would it only be him getting pleasure from it. Once again, I am willing to try this because my boyfriend always is open to trying things I want to do, I would just like a little bit of input on this. Thanks everyone.
Like everyone else has said the secret to enjoyable anal sex is LUBE and lots of it. It also helps if you slowly work your way up to full pentration. Have your boyfriend start with just one well lubed finger and slowly insert it until you feel comfortable. When my boyfriend and I first started it was easier for me if I layed on my stomach and he was on top of me. Make sure he knows to go very slow everytime he enters because even after you have done it a few times you will not relax your muscles enough for him to easily slide in.

Good Luck,

Daisy

 
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