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Old 02-06-2004, 04:58 PM   #1
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Am I normal?

I am certainly not gay by any means. I love women and have always have sex with them when I'm lucky. But for some reason, when I am watching porn or anything like that, my eyes tend to wander on to the guys penis. I have some strange fantasy of giving a guy oral but i would never want to kiss him or touch his body or anything? Does anyone else have this problem?

 
Old 02-06-2004, 06:04 PM   #2
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Re: Am I normal?

Well given your Username: AverageGuy. You sound pretty normal to me.
Ok, sorry couldnt' help it.
Now: your eyes stray toward the guys? The penis? No big deal. It's normal. Curiosity is normal, as is even a little same sex attraction. Doesn't mean you're gay, doesn't mean anything. Everyone has curiosity, and a little attraction. Totally normal. No worries.

 
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Old 02-06-2004, 06:08 PM   #3
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Re: Am I normal?

thanks...anyone else wanna chime in?

 
Old 02-06-2004, 06:41 PM   #4
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I think this is normal, and doesn't mean that you have some sort of deep repressed gay tendencies As a woman, sometimes I wonder what it would be like to touch and fondle breasts. I've been approached by gay/bi women many times, and I wasn't tempted by any means. I don't want a sexual encounter with a woman.

 
Old 02-07-2004, 03:02 AM   #5
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Hey bud, I think its pretty normal as well. Lots of guys have come here with the same question. We're pretty curious, particularly when it comes to sex and other guys...what is their penis like, how does it compare to mine, and for some of us....what would it be like to engage in something sexual with another guy, maybe mutual masturbation or even oral sex. Some of us try those things out of curiosity and move on. None of this means that we are gay, just part of sexual development and life lessons. So, don't give this another thought, you're just one of the guys who is willing to own these thoughts and talk about them. I suspect that many of us wonder but few are willing to be honest about it!

 
Old 02-08-2004, 02:07 PM   #6
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Re: Am I normal?

thanks lance, I feel better now. If anyone else has a comment, feel free to post it

 
Old 02-13-2004, 06:56 AM   #7
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AverageGuy, I see where you're coming from. I haven't watch porn in a while, but I would focus on the guys a lot--actually studying what they were doing. A lot of it had to with the fact that I love women and knew all about women and how they reacted sexually, but I knew nothing about how men acted sexually, other than myself.
I've never had a gay experience or seen other guys hard, so when I watched porn I was fascinated by the different sizes and shapes of penises when they were hard. I would look at how they were having sex, what positions they were using, and what it looked like when they ejaculated. I was an outsider looking in. Like a peeping Tom of sorts.
As far as your fantasies go, that's completely normal. You can leave them as fantasies or try to fulfill them. Personally, I don't believe that all our thoughts or fantasies need to be satisfied. If we're happy in life, that's all that matters.

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Old 02-17-2004, 04:43 AM   #8
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I'm not gay and would never have an encounter with another man but I have to admit I find myself doing the same thing. Not only for comparison of penises, because I know they're not typical and it's kinda pointless to try to keep up with that as a standard, but a near perfect penis is arousing to me. Penises in porn tend to be, well, near perfect penises, similar to what models in magazines are compared to the population at large, and that's why thery're in the movie. While your "Average Joe" penis does nothing for me, there's something stimulating about looking at those larger, perfect shaped and extra hard models, especially when they ejaculate and it just keeps coming out, to me that's hot. Similar thing seems true in many areas of physiology, I like looking at any near perfect body part on men and women. Not that I hold that as any kind of a standard, it's just nice to see.

 
Old 02-18-2004, 02:11 AM   #9
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Just remember bud that everything that seems so perfect in porn is probably not! There is alot of digital enhancment and "touch up" work done to porn, both the print version and video/dvd versions. That ejaculation that keeps coming....that perfect penis....probably much of it isn't real! But it does help to wonder what if and focus on how perfect it seems! I've done it as well!

 
Old 02-18-2004, 12:35 PM   #10
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I like what 6foot2 had to say about perfection and being stimulated by it. That's what I look for too. It's the culture we live in. The media and the monster it created.
I've looked at nudist websites out of curiosity. The people on there are normal, everyday people. It's not what we want to see, even though that's how our friends, relatives or neighbors might look. Or how we look!
They are fat, thin, boobs sagging, shriveled penises, old, wrinkled, etc. A cross section of life. I always wondered why nudists say that nudity is not all about sexuality. After seeing those websites, I agree.
And Lance is correct about those films. They are edited beyond belief. It may seem like a man goes on and on like the Energizer bunny, but that scene was probably spliced together to look a lot longer.
I've done a lot of research on porn and wrote quite a few posts on here about it. I find it repulsive and degrading.

 
Old 02-21-2004, 07:12 PM   #11
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I dont think it's anything unusual. I think we are all somewhat intrigued by seeing others engage in sexual acts. It's probably a little of the voyeur in all of us as well as what someone else said...we are comparing how we perform to what we are seeing. Another good point is not to believe what you see in those movies. A lot of what you see is enhanced especially the volume of ejaculate. Amazing what prop people can mix up!

 
Old 02-24-2004, 06:35 AM   #12
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I think this will lead you to change... if you start thinking alot about it.. I suggest not to focus on these things.. and start developing other sexual fantacies.. This is just my opinion... Thanks

 
Old 02-25-2004, 03:54 AM   #13
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totally normal, dont sweat it.... hmm, not much else to say

 
Old 02-26-2004, 06:29 AM   #14
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When I was 15 or 16, I had similar situation. While I didn't look at porn very much back then, whenever I saw a provocotive picture in a magazine, a lot of my gazing tended to veer toward the male. I would even become aroused, but only when I viewed a couple in a sexual situation. I wasn't all that interested in male only pics. Did this lead to a gay experience? Yes it did. And for sometime too. But I knew that I wouldn't lead the gay life forever. I mainly indulged for the sexual gratification. I knew that someday I wanted to get married and have a family. Now, I look back on it as youthful adventure.

Today, whenever I look at porn, I still often find that looking at the male increases my arousal, but actively am strickly heterosexual. Was I gay? Sure, just like I was an high schooler in the past, but I'm not anymore.

Is all this normal? I'd say that stuff happens in our lives that happens to other people too, not everyone, but to some. Don't sweat things too much and I think you'll be just fine. And a little adventure is just fine.

 
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