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Old 02-11-2004, 07:57 PM   #1
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I saw a comedian the other night with a bunch of friends and he was making joke after joke about why guys lift and sexual inadaquacy!

What do you guys think??.....

The comedian started saying that "muscles don't help! They hinder! Going to the gym to bulk up is just one way some men try to mask the fact that they have small penises. Society would like to believe that men go the gym to impress women, or stay healthy. But in reality, men go to the gym to enlarge their bodies because they can't enlarge their penis! Nothing is more upsetting than watching a Muscle Man competition and seeing some huge, ripped, vascular, tanned Adonis with nothing in his pants! You can bulk up all you want, but don't lie to your self. The bigger the vase, the smaller the flower looks. What's a super sized extra value meal with a small fry?"

I am not gonna lie, I mean we were all laughing uncontrollably, and the girls we were with were actually agreeing with this guy!! Thats when I started thinking that maybe there is some psychology behind weights and penis size and body building...just like the age old joke about Corvetts...nice car sorry about you're penis!

Any comments......

 
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Nothing like poking fun at men with small penises... (although I'm sure I'd have been laughing too )

Personally, I have never gone out with someone into body building so I couldn't tell you if there is any correlation between their penis size and their muscle size. But the stereotype has always been there, like you said, about how the guy with the ridiculous sports car, or giant muscles "must be compensating for something".

Ultimately though, assuming he is compensating for his penis - instead of some other perceived inadequacy like intelligence, income, height, hair, god who knows - is open to debate. Saying it's compensating for his penis just gets the biggest laugh because it's the cruelest.

 
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Old 02-13-2004, 05:31 AM   #3
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Re: Bodybuilding and Sex Appeal

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The bigger the vase, the smaller the flower looks. What's a super sized extra value meal with a small fry?"[/I]
I have to admit, this is funny!
Oh man.......this guy sounded unmerciful! I lift weights; nothing compared to the guys who eat like pigeons and you can count every muscle fiber and vein in their bodies!!......insecurities .....maybe!...penis correlation????

I don't have time for that!...way to much work to maintain that type of physique, and steroids would never be an option!.......so where does that leave me?

Average I suppose!...yes I lift, yes I'm average and I never really gave the two things any thought or correlation until this post!

I did hear about the car thing though!...One time when I tested a Mustang Convertable Cobra, a women actually made a comment at a red light...something like "nice wheels, but you probably have nothing down below"

I just smiled! (and flipped her the bird)

 
Old 02-15-2004, 11:38 AM   #4
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When I was in my late teens and early twenties I would occasionally go to the gym with my buddies only because I was just tagging along with them at the spur of the moment. I never really took to body building or anything having to do with the gym. I would rather have been putting 200 miles on my bicycle like I did on most free weekends. I always preferred to ride by myself on the country roads. Just me against the wind. I still have that bicycle. I should start riding again but I'm too much of a couch potatoe (Dan's spelling ) now adays.

So, even though I never really took up body building I always had natural athletic looking biceps. If I have to compare them to someone it would be to David Robinson's biceps of the San Antonio Spurs, but mine were more profound. People would always make comments about them even though I wore ordinary T shirts. I have never owned, much less worn (not even once) in my entire life, any of those muscle (wife beater) T shirts some guys like to wear to show off their muscular hairy armpits. Fortunately for me, and them(guys), nobody ever made any comments about my arms relative to my penis size, at least not to my face.

Well, maybe I got self conscious about it. I don't know. Like maybe I didn't do any excercise to earn them or whatever. People would ask me questions like "Do you work out". I always answer "No" which was true because to answer otherwise may have lead to questions about working out that I couldn't answer.

I never really thought about it much but in my mid 20's I started wearing long sleeve shirts exclusively and I still do to this day as I approach 50. On occasion when I am around friends and someone grabs me by the arm to get my attention, there is a 50/50 chance they will still make a comment about them even though I am easily 25 to 30 pounds overweight.

Anyway, I don't consider myself naturally gifted in my other department. I'm am pretty much normal there, as far as size goes.

As for the vehicle I own and drive everyday. The comment in question is not even a remote possibility for me. Promise not to laugh. I have been faithful in that I have only owned one vehicle (running vehicle that is) in my entire life. I still drive it today as my only vehicle that I bought off the show room floor 28 years ago. She's the longest lasting relationship I've ever had. She's abandoned me only a couple of times when I took her for granted and neglected her. Isn't that just like a woman? But still, she has stuck by me for over a million miles together and we are ready to go for another million and she has never cheated on me. Now that's love!


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Did I say I have been faithful as well? Well actually, I've cheated on her many many times by renting a vehicle on ocassion, but I refuse to rent a Mustang, any convertible, or any type of red colored vehicle. Regardless of what you may think of me for cheating, I don't care, I have my principles.

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Old 02-15-2004, 01:10 PM   #5
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For anyone who would like a comment from a female's point of view....

I have had three partners in my life (age 20) and two of them did not work out at all and were very small in ALL aspects. Not kidding with you. My DF now lifts everyday. He isnt like Gov. Arnold or anything like that but he is very muscley and VERY fit. he makes me feel very safe and secure. But to make the comment about whats posted here.... He is VERY big as well. The biggest I have seen (including porn vids) and been with. So as for the comedian... I think mayeb he has some self esteem issues he needs to talk to someone about.
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Old 02-16-2004, 05:28 AM   #6
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I believe that some of our behavior is driven by a sense of inadequacy or other psychological issues. I don't think you can say that those who lift weights do so because they have small penises. But truthfully, many do exercise because of sexual needs and desires. I exercise a lot, and I know that my sexual needs are in part why I exercise a lot. For me, my penis size (which I believe to be average at a little over 7 inches) doesn't drive me. But it is sexually satisfying for me, for example, to swim and bike. My sense of the sexually satisfying and arousing character of these types of exercise drive me to do them and make me quite ready for sex after I complete them. Much of our behavior is driven by sexual impulse.

 
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As for the vehicle I own and drive everyday. The comment in question is not even a remote possibility for me. Promise not to laugh. I have been faithful in that I have only owned one vehicle (running vehicle that is) in my entire life. I still drive it today as my only vehicle that I bought off the show room floor 28 years ago. She's the longest lasting relationship I've ever had. She's abandoned me only a couple of times when I took her for granted and neglected her. Isn't that just like a woman? But still, she has stuck by me for over a million miles together and we are ready to go for another million and she has never cheated on me. Now that's love!


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Did I say I have been faithful as well? Well actually, I've cheated on her many many times by renting a vehicle on ocassion, but I refuse to rent a Mustang, any convertible, or any type of red colored vehicle. Regardless of what you may think of me for cheating, I don't care, I have my principles.

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Judging by the age I bet it's a "high maintenance" relationship.

The difference between cars and women is: nobody minds if you trade the car in for a newer model.
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Old 02-18-2004, 11:17 AM   #8
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yeah, Honestly, I know alot of guys who compete with me and none of them are doing it because of lack of size. but they all have their reasons. honestly, when I was younger people always called me short (heightwise) so I figured If I bulked up it would compensate for that and even if it didn't, I would be able to kick the crap out of them anyways (immature I know) and I really wasn't that short. (5'6" at the time, and now I'm 5'9"). But after a few years I just started to like being really healthy, (and benching 455 didn't exactly hurt my self-esteem either) Well, that's just my reasoning. But then again I'm not a super-freak bodybuilder, I'm only 210lbs comp.

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Old 02-21-2004, 08:01 AM   #9
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I really dont agree with the whole statement i guess. You could also say, "why do guy's buy fancy cars? Have you ever heard that one before?"
I think the comedian would better understand why people weight lift if he actually did it himself. Improving your body will give you great self-esteem and nothing can beat that. I do not believe it's the reason most men work out. It makes for a nice joke, but not a fact.
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Old 02-21-2004, 09:55 PM   #10
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I started lifting weights to gain weight and to improve my self esteem. I used to be 135lbs at 5'10''. The lifting has improved my confidence and my clothes do fit me better now. I didn't do it because of my penis size, although I am above average but certainly not huge. To be honest, more women found me attractive when I was skinnier, lets say 20lbs less (I'm 188 lbs now). I think most women don't find body builder types attractive, because they appear threatening and vain to women. As long as you're in shape/fit looking, women will find you very attractive. No need for the bulky muscles or anything.

 
Old 03-27-2004, 03:14 PM   #11
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I think that the comedian probably wishes that what he said is true. The fact is that working out makes you feel alot better than if you don't and plus you look alot better and you tend to get hit on more than if you didn't work out. I like to go to the beach and get attention from girls...what straight guy wouldn't? The size of my penis was never a factor to get me to lift weights and neither is my taste of cars. I drive a nice car and there have been some girls that have told me that they think I have such a car to compensate for my manhood...but I don't really mind wooping it out and asking them if they have any other theories.

 
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Ultimately though, assuming he is compensating for his penis - instead of some other perceived inadequacy like intelligence, income, height, hair, god who knows - is open to debate.
This comedian was funny! Make no mistake about it! My friends and I laughed uncontrollably....(there were 12 of us for a birthday party at a local comedy club) Even the four ladies were doubled over laughing! The irony here, as to why I originally made the post, were the four male bodybuilders watching the show with us! Two are "steroid huge" and compete locally, and the others are big "football" types.

Now...I never asked these guys their measurements after the show and nor will I ever, but it was cool to see them just taking the jokes as harmless bantor!!

The interesting aspect though just happened a few days ago when one of the bodybuilders entered a local bodybuilding show here in town. A few of us went for moral support, and we also helped him get ready backstage. There were several bodybuilders getting ready and I'm noticing some were using male stripper penis jocks!!!....I could not believe my eyes!! For people who don't know, a penis jock is a latex rubber penis mold that you where under a stripper g-string to make your package look huge, but not erect....not all male strippers use them, but alot do and so do some underware models. I said to my friend..."are you gonna wear that thing"....his response...OF COURSE!!..I don't want to be laughed at onstage!!! He explained that when you get huge other appendiges seem so laughably small.....its like putting tricycle tires on a Monster Truck!

So here I am at a bodybuilder show, where 90% of the men were using rubber penis enhancements, and the comedians jokes running through my head!
Maybe its really true!?...or a percieved truth!?

 
Old 03-29-2004, 07:13 AM   #13
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I think it's interesting that the title of this thread is "bodybuilding and sex appeal" but he thread is actually all about bodybuilding and penis size, as if sex appeal and penis size are one and the same.

I'm not a bodybuilder by the usual definition of that term, but I do work out religiously and I definitely come across more as muscular than as anything else. I have often been the recipient of (what I hope has been) good-natured ribbing about how I must work so hard on my body to compensate for lack or brains, personality, penis, money, etc. (Of course, it is invariably someone who has never seen the inside of a gym in their life who is the one making fun of me. I'm just saying...) Since I know there is no use protesting, I usually try to be a good sport and often make fun of myself right back in order to defuse the situation. But I can honestly say that from the very first moment I ever started lifting weights, I never even remotely thought that by doing so I would be improving upon the perception of my manhood, physical or otherwise. And I have to say that no one I've ever met who works out and has big muscles has ever seemed to me like they were doing it for that reason, either. I don't even quite get that line of reasoning, and in fact, I remember the first time someone ever suggested that I must be lifting weights in order to compensate for a small penis, I was like, "Huh? I don't get it? Where is THAT coming from?" As it happens, I am above-average in penis size, but honestly, I don't think I would have thought that way even if I was of below average endowment.

On the other hand, I very consciously DID start working out specifically because I thought that it would increase my sex appeal to have a buff body. The penis thing never occurred to me, I just thought that I would get more positive attention with more muscles. Frankly, I saw the kinds of guys that I wanted to be having sex with --- muscular guys, and it seemed to me that they only wanted to have sex with other guys like themselves. (This was not entirely true, but it seemed that way at the time.) I figured the only way I was ever gonna get with them was if I got a body like them, so I did. Since in my case, it worked --- getting a more muscular body meant I was able to attract the kind of muscular men I desired --- I would have to say that yes, to some extent, bodybuilding did equal sex appeal. I was never trying to become part of a "club" so that I could exclude other people from that club, but I do remember how left out of that club I felt before I started lifting weights, and so I can understand why a lot of people feel the need to blunt the sting of that rejection by making fun of people who work out. Working out, eating right and building muscle is really, really hard work. It takes a ton of dedication and discipline and determination, sacrifice and self-education, discomfort and hard self-evaluation. It is a constant challenge and an everyday committment. And often, when you are done, people will deride you for being vain, shallow, and stupid. They will look at you as though you are nothing but your body, and they will look for ways to cut you down and find some reason to explain away why you have managed to achieve something that they haven't. If someone showed determination, discipline, dedication, self-education, etc. in business or art or any other area of life, people would applaud them and elevate them to a higher status. But when people exhibit those same traits in bodybuilding, people often say it must be because they lack something else.

Of course, working out and being healthy turned out to have a lot more important and life-changing benefits than the rather base reason I first started doing it. Every day there's another story on the news about obesity as an epidemic taking over America, and all the health problems that are caused by it. Yeah, I have a sense of humor, and I'll admit that big muscular guys are an easy target and that comedian was probably pretty funny, but it seems to me that anything we can do to help promote health, working out, etc., is a good thing. And making fun of people who are actually doing something positive for their bodies makes it seem like the couch potatoes are the "normal", healthy ones. Maybe that's why obesity is starting to seem normal and okay as a lifestyle choice.

It seems to me that when people make fun of people for their physical characteristics (whatever they may be), they are, instead, just showing their own limitations.

 
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.....its like putting tricycle tires on a Monster Truck!
Oh man......this quote is great!..and TRUE! ...Think of it this way:

You cannot build up the penis..it stays the same...BUT
You can build up the body with drugs and food to pretty big levels....SO
The penis is going to look smaller because the body is bigger all around...
The proportion of penis to body changes!

This is where I think the joke originates from...!!!????...A huge steroid "monster-like" male with the "statue David" tiny penis!

Its the same thing with appearance...if a girl with huge hands is holding your penis...it will look smaller in her hand..than lets say a smaller handed girl holding it ...the penis will look huge!!....its also like the one little daisy flower placed in grandmas rose vase!....YOU will laugh!!..its way out of proportion!

Life is all about a sense of humor...you gotta laugh at things!
I find no offense to this at all...as I stated in my earlier post ..I lift but I am not huge, and I am very average...and not offended in the least. I agreed with the above poster that HEALTH is the number one reason to exercise!

But I still find this thread amusing!




 
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My DF now lifts everyday. He isnt like Gov. Arnold or anything like that but he is very muscley and VERY fit. he makes me feel very safe and secure... He is VERY big as well. The biggest I have seen (including porn vids) and been with.
How do you dare to speak like that in front of the poor??!! Please have a bit of compassion here LOL!


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