Wow - I remember my first time. It was PAINFUL!!!! It took five times of painful sex before it started feeling better (not great - better). Hang in there - it does take time, patience, understanding, and lots of love! But, boy buddy, is it ever worth it!!!
I recommend KY liquid that you can purchase at Krogers in the pharmacy section. Use lots of lube those first times - the more the better. If you have a "sex" store nearby, I highly recommend Eros, but it can be quite expensive - a small bottle costs about $13. Don't try to rush things as you can do damage - be very careful. I had a girlfriend whose boyfriend used small toys on her over the course of time - slowly buying bigger and bigger toys until it matched her boyfriend's size. He slowly "worked her up" so that they could make love. She said her first "real" time was great.
Make sure, of course, to practice safe sex. It may be a good idea as well, if the problem persists to contact a doctor in case she has some type of problem - too small of a vaginal opening - birth defects ... etc. I have heard cases where the women has physical deformities that needed to be remedied before being able to have sex.
Best of luck to you!!!
Originally Posted by gaffe
Ok...here it is. My and my gf decided to have sex and we had been plannin it for a while and then we got around to the night of having sex. We are both virgins. We have been together 6months and are totally at ease together. We come to the night of having sex and as a go to gentally place me penis in her she tells me its really painful. No surprise i imagine it would be , she tell me to carry out so we continue but she experiences really bad pain. so we stop. we try again a few times but seem to get stuck at the same place just entering the vagina wen its too painful for her again. She bled sligtly so we thought that perhaps the hymen has been broken. A few hours pass of cuddles and chats and she wants to try again to see if its still painful.....and it is, so we gave in. We spent more time together talking about it to make sure we are fine.
We kinda wondering what to do now...we both would love a good "sex life" in our relationship together its just where do we go from here because making my gf have so much pain cant be right - i really hated putting her through pain as i felt to blame, although i no i cant help the female body hehe. Some advice would be appreciated on how to make this less painful for her.