Recently I have had converstaions with men and the fact that I am a teacher is a complete turn on for them....I had no idea that my profession was even in the running for sexiness.....SO tell me guys, what about women do you find sexy that we may not know about?
Julie
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I think those guys you talked to have been watching too many porn movies. Actually, I prefer to use adult movies over the word porn, but it wouldn't sound as funny in this case... to me anyway.
I don't know what defines sexy for me, in a woman, but I'll know it when I see it. The only thing I can tell you is that it has to be a natural thing and I believe many women have answered that question similarly about what they find sexy in a man. It starts with just being yourself and one either has it or they don't.
Your question, or similar ones have been posted before. I just don't know how to use the search thingy to give you any guidance here.
Maybe it goes back to when we were in the 7th and 8th grades and the hormones were raging. Looking at ANY woman could cause an erection and the fantasies ran wild. What better way to daydream in boring classrooms with boring subjects.
I think men find ENTHUSIASM about sex a big turn on. When you WANT to worship Mister Happy we find that attractive. You aren't doing it just because it is expected in order to get to intercourse. Enthusiasm means you want to try new things. Bedroom boredom is a major problem for a lot of men. The idea that you will try ANYTHING, at least once, makes us smile. Maybe THAT is one of the factors of porn that attracts men. The women in porn WANT it and have NO limits to what they will do. That is why those women are part of men's fantasies. Beyond the "perfect" bodies is the attitude that they enjoy every aspect of sex. It isn't a chore. (That shows what good actors they really are. They're getting paid to do it.) Boredom and the idea that "Well, it's Saturday night, might as well..." are very unsexy.
My wife bought a DVD at the last lingerie/sextoy party she went to. (I can't remember the name of it. I think the producer/director is a woman named Candide Royale.) It is the story of a married couple and the things they do to keep the fire going. These people are (supposedly) married in real life and it shows. They aren't perfect twentysomethings. There are no other naked people in it. It is the HOTTEST porn movie I've ever seen. We can only watch it in bits and pieces before we have to take what we've seen and put it into action.
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when you say what about a woman do we find sexy, are you talking about a woman's looks or personality?
I think I am just wonderfing in general. I am not sure if it is just the perfect small waist and big boobs? Is it maybe somthing other then what we women are told that we have to be my media. I have come to realize lately that men seem to like all aspects of women that WE have no idea is even sexy...So anything about appearance or personality would be welcomed! TY Julie
I think men find ENTHUSIASM about sex a big turn on. When you WANT to worship Mister Happy we find that attractive.
Very Cool! I did not realize that. You make a lot of sence about why porn would be so appealing. As a woman, I always thought it was for the beauty of the women and their flawless appearnce.
If you remember from other posts, I am in a in a state of being VERY sexual. My hubby is enjoying this....he even baught me a "toy"...he is more open to new things because I am....funny I did not make that connection til you wrote it....ty..we are trying new things weekly..... I would be interested in finding out more about the porn video. I was thinking about getting some, but I am affraid the women will be sexier then me
Julie-btw- everytime I read your name I have instant ABBA going thre my head lol lol
Last edited by julieanneweb; 02-21-2004 at 05:08 PM.
Its really hard to define what "sexy" is....i think it differs for everyone. I know I have found some women to be very attractive where other guys I was with did not think so, but that's just me. Sexy to me is not always big boobs, and not a "perfect" small waist but not a ummmm, "thick" woman.
Long hair is also kind of sexy, I'd say shoulder-length or just a tad more. Excessive makeup on a woman isn't sexy. Earrings, maybe naval ring even, is sexy while other piercings are not. Also as Supertrooper said, enthusiasm about sex is sexy. I think its also kind of "sexy" in a way for the woman to make the first move. Guys are taught from an early age that we have to make the moves, we have to kiss the woman first, etc etc but for a woman to take the first step hmmmmmm, kinda sexy!
As far as sex goes, positions where you face each other and also the woman on top is a great big turn on for me; very sexy. But hey, that's just my opinion.
Last edited by 1965_Bruce; 02-21-2004 at 06:36 PM.
Its really hard to define what "sexy" is....i think it differs for everyone. I know I have found some women to be very attractive where other guys I was with did not think so, but that's just me. Sexy to me is not always big boobs, and not a "perfect" small waist but not a ummmm, "thick" woman.
Long hair is also kind of sexy, I'd say shoulder-length or just a tad more. Excessive makeup on a woman isn't sexy. Earrings, maybe naval ring even, is sexy while other piercings are not. Also as Supertrooper said, enthusiasm about sex is sexy. I think its also kind of "sexy" in a way for the woman to make the first move. Guys are taught from an early age that we have to make the moves, we have to kiss the woman first, etc etc but for a woman to take the first step hmmmmmm, kinda sexy!
As far as sex goes, positions where you face each other and also the woman on top is a great big turn on for me; very sexy. But hey, that's just my opinion.
No Janet Jackson piercing rings then huh? LOL Thanks for your input. I think that a lot of us girls dont know some of this stuff....It is good info!
it would hav to be the way she makes you feel like she wants to do it... none of this star fish stuff but actually taking charge and making u feel like she wants u and no body else,
Very Cool! I did not realize that. You make a lot of sence about why porn would be so appealing. As a woman, I always thought it was for the beauty of the women and their flawless appearnce.
If you remember from other posts, I am in a in a state of being VERY sexual. My hubby is enjoying this....he even baught me a "toy"...he is more open to new things because I am....funny I did not make that connection til you wrote it....ty..we are trying new things weekly..... I would be interested in finding out more about the porn video. I was thinking about getting some, but I am affraid the women will be sexier then me
Julie-btw- everytime I read your name I have instant ABBA going thre my head lol lol
My wife loaned it to her sister, so I don't have the name of it right now. My wife said it is actually an "instructional" video put out by a company helping you to have better sex. We have several DVDs produced by women. More story, less "piston pumping", no "money shots". The starlets are still often surgically altered, but individual physical parts aren't the focus here.
Another thing that is sexy (I guess directly related to my first post) is letting your man know that you are having impure thoughts in the strangest places. It has cut short more than one trip to the grocery store. We were at town meeting and about two hours into it my wife remarked that she had forgotten to put on any panties. She's very naughty on the cell phone when I'm out of town giving a seminar. Stupid stuff like that.
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Reason: careful, supertrooper.
I am so glad to learn of these things. I really want my hubby to notice and get turned on by me more often. We have been married ten years and we are still having good sex, yet we are trying to introduce new things. It is good to know that simple suggestions can go a long way..will have to try...ty!
it would hav to be the way she makes you feel like she wants to do it... none of this star fish stuff but actually taking charge and making u feel like she wants u and no body else,
But would that surpass say she was overweight or not too pretty?
Have you discussed with your husband, specifically, what HIS fantasies are? What about yours? It's the best place to start. You can start by writing them out. Swap lists. Cross of what you wouldn't do by choice and what is physically impossible. Keep the rest of the list to yourself to keep him guessing about what COULD happen. Then start planning. Planning can be half the fun. It's all about exercising the main sexual organ: the mind.
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LOL I have yet to talk to ANYONE who found it amazing to look at!
Julie
Well the porno industry would have us men think that women who look totally fake are sexy! And that has spilled over into mainstream entertainment too....ugh, I think Britney spears would have been just as sexy with what she was born with but I guess it help to sell more records... whatever sells
Have you discussed with your husband, specifically, what HIS fantasies are? What about yours? It's the best place to start. You can start by writing them out. Swap lists. Cross of what you wouldn't do by choice and what is physically impossible. Keep the rest of the list to yourself to keep him guessing about what COULD happen. Then start planning. Planning can be half the fun. It's all about exercising the main sexual organ: the mind.
WOW! What an idea! That sounds very exciting! I will have to try...tyvm!! Julie
Actually, I prefer to use adult movies over the word porn, but it wouldn't sound as funny in this case... to me anyway.
You aren't doing it just because it is expected in order to get to intercourse. Enthusiasm means you want to try new things. Bedroom boredom is a major problem for a lot of men. The idea that you will try ANYTHING, at least once, makes us smile. 
Maybe THAT is one of the factors of porn that attracts men. The women in porn WANT it and have NO limits to what they will do. That is why those women are part of men's fantasies. Beyond the "perfect" bodies is the attitude that they enjoy every aspect of sex. It isn't a chore. (That shows what good actors they really are. They're getting paid to do it.) Boredom and the idea that "Well, it's Saturday night, might as well..." are very unsexy. 
