ok, i havent had sex for a while, well over a year, nearer to 2 in fact, last night i was coming home in the taxi with some other people, one of which was a woman, she kept kising me on the cheek etc, then said i dont kiss her back so we started making out, in fact it pretty much lasted the journey home, well i said bye to everyone and went indoors, only to find i had precum, not ejaculated, just the precum, and i had a huge erection ! This doesnt even sound normal for a virgin, so what can i do, if i had invited her in and she started oral sex id feel stupid and embarresed, which is why i hopped out the taxi quick! can anyone help, any advice would be useful ?
Reading your situation i would think that not having any release in any lenght of time would account for precum. just the bodys way of getting rid of excessive [semen] i think
Last edited by Mod-S4; 03-12-2004 at 01:49 PM.
Reason: Banned word replaced. Please use proper terminology.
Technically, it's actually called 'pre-ejaculatory fluid' and is not semen. And since it isn't semen, it's not the body's way of getting rid of extra. It's cleanser for the urethra (and lube).
Having pre-ejaculatory fluid is perfectly normal and unless that woman had no experience at all, she shouldn't have been shocked to find it. Now if you'd had gallons of it, maybe...
You probably didn't realize how turned on you were, and it does sound perfectly normal for someone who admittedly hasn't had any sex in almost 2 years. And a penis doesn't need to be stimulated to produce pre-ejaculatory fluid. When's the last time you were sexually aroused to that degree and it wasn't touched?
Normal. Totally normaly. Nothing to be stress out about. She probably new what was happened and was probably thrilled to know that she was able to get you excited. What [straight] woman would be happy to find out that she couldn't turn on a man??? Don't worry.
Technically, it's actually called 'pre-ejaculatory fluid' and is not semen. And since it isn't semen, it's not the body's way of getting rid of extra. It's cleanser for the urethra (and lube).
Having pre-ejaculatory fluid is perfectly normal and unless that woman had no experience at all, she shouldn't have been shocked to find it. Now if you'd had gallons of it, maybe...
You probably didn't realize how turned on you were, and it does sound perfectly normal for someone who admittedly hasn't had any sex in almost 2 years. And a penis doesn't need to be stimulated to produce pre-ejaculatory fluid. When's the last time you were sexually aroused to that degree and it wasn't touched?
Never, which is why i was soo confused, i dont usually notice it as my penis is inside. i just didnt want her to think i had prematurley ejaculated as i thought i had done until i got indoors and realised otherwise, its a shame as i do like this girl, but now she probably thinks i dont as i kind of went indoors pretty swiftly.
Pretty much every reply said you were normal, except Hoop, who didn't specify which part of your post was not normal. That you had a lot of precum? That you had a huge erection with no stimulation?
I'm thinking he's a little confused maybe. Because having precum is normal. And getting an erection when making out with a woman is normal...
First, you are normal. Second, as one of the other writers said she would like that she got you that turned on. I find it exciting when a man gets that way. It shows me I am doing the right thing. Do not stress for another second, in fact get her number and call her up!
Ok, i called her literally seconds ago, we are going out on the town thursday night, and she hinted that her house is empty, maybe for the first time in a long while, ill be with someone i like, and maybe ill have a rather good thursday night it is the 3rd time out after all
Ok, i called her literally seconds ago, we are going out on the town thursday night, and she hinted that her house is empty, maybe for the first time in a long while, ill be with someone i like, and maybe ill have a rather good thursday night it is the 3rd time out after all
Visual and physical stimulation are not the only forms of erotic pleasure. Some people get off just by talking on the phone with a woman or typing sensual ideas on a keyboard. Pre-*** is normal and only requires that you be excited to some level in order for it to manifest.
As for the concern that she would be worried if she offered you oral sex, don't be. Most women are pleased to see that they excite you and most women with experience know about pre-***. If they don't then that's your chance to explain it to her, trust me she'll be happy that she turns you on.
Ok now im completley confused am i normal or not ? i mean i know its nothing serious, but its pretty embarresing if it isnt normal.
Ok Phoenix,
My post was a take off, one of your previous posts. The post where you said you had trouble with one night stands and your views towards it. But, at the same time you are suffering from the lack of sex as well and that is where your problem lies. When I said you were not normal, it was meant in the sense that you suffer from sexual inhibitions more than the normal individual. Thus, there is nothing serious about it. You just have to get over it.
This girl in the taxi was all over you according to your post and now she is hinting that her house is going to be empty next week. The rest is up to you, but if you fail us on Thursday you will forever be abnormal. That's a very serious issue, but don't take it so serious.
The stuff about your erection and wet spot are all normal, so relax. If you were to tell this girl about it, she would probably take it as a complement that she was able to cause that much excitement from you just from smooching. So, just loosen up, get over your inhibitions and enjoy life or it will pass you by before you know it, but take the necessary precautions and practice safe sex.
Only 3 days to go, my phone bill is gonna be massive cos she keeps sending me text messages and calling me and vice versa, not that im complaining as for safe sex, im one step ahead of you if you get the idea
Embaressing but true, what can i do? 
Re: Embaressing but true, what can i do? 
am i normal or not ? i mean i know its nothing serious, but its pretty embarresing if it isnt normal.
