Some help/suggestions please - Sexual Health - General Message Board

manofsand2 · 05-30-2004, 11:49 PM

This is the first time I have posted to any board, but I don't have anyone else that I can ask about this so here it is...

I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 months and things are absolutely great with us. This is the first relationship that I have been in where I feel like I can be myself. She is quite a bit younger than I am and is very sexually graphic and adventurous, which is good. The sex that we have is the best I have ever had.

Here is the issue... she says she wants me to be more aggressive when it comes to sex. I asked her what that means to her and she says she wants me to tell her what I want when it comes to sex. She also wants me to take charge and "take what I want". Problem I am having is that I don't know how to do that. I have only been with 2 other women in my life, one of which was my ex-wife who wasn't sexual at all so I don't know how to act with my current girlfriend. I know that I please her and give her the "big O" often, but I am afraid that if I don't learn to be "aggressive" that she may get bored.

Any help or suggestions you can give, I would appreciate it.

Magnetic · 05-31-2004, 06:23 PM

Perhaps you can rent some XXX videos together and then act out together some of the scenes.

Pick up after after work and take her to a hotel. Have candles already set up (don't light them until you get back, though!).

Do some role playing. Drop her off at a bar, have her go on in, you part the car and then pretend you are strangers. Watch her for a while to see if others hit on her, then go over, pick her up, take her to a hotel and have your way.

Good luck!

euskatel786 · 05-31-2004, 07:03 PM

all of what MAGNETIC said.. plus..
have confidence in what youre doing.. if you go in with the mentality that you have no idea what youre doing or want.. its gonna rub on youre girl and the way youre dealing with her.. just be confident.. maybe talk to her about it because the more she encourages you by responding the more youll feel better.. im sure youve been discouraged by youre previous wife not being sexual.. anyway, BE A MAN!.. be confident in what you do.. believe me it'll rub on her to see her man all manly.. give the impression that you know what youre doing even when youre trying something new.. have your way..
more ideas: if you dont watch the XXX with her, do watch it alone so you can get ideas.. and use them on her.. use rose petals..
have fun..