Gotta agree here, most heterosexual dudes wouldn't think of looking at gay porn. Doesn't mean your man is gay, though, but it would make me wonder. I mean, I could see maybe looking at one or two out of curiosity, but once your DLing hundreds, something more is up.
Have to agree with the last poster...once or twice out of curiosity sounds reasonable, but not over and over again. Also not a good sign that he turned it around on you. People who are hiding something do exactly that to make you second guess *yourself* rather than follow your gut and get to the bottom of things with *them*.
All the straight guys I know can't stand to watch two guys going at it. They think it's cool to watch the girls go at it but are disgusted by the guys. I don't know though, I woudn't just assume your husbands gay because of this. Is he still interested in you sexually?
Your husband sounds potentially bi-sexual. If he is playing around behind your back, your health may be in jeopardy, to say the least. Have a serious one-on-one with him: something big may be up, and if it is, some marital counseling might help. If he's just fantasizing like many other guys do, and your relationship is healthy, there's probably nothing to worry about -- it could be just a phase ...
Yeah thats pretty weird... I mean Im a female and I prefer to watch Lesbian porn.. But Im not Bi- or Lesbian.... But You can't pay me to watch Gay male porn... So who knows.. Maybe he is just curious.. Who knows! Everyone has their own lil things they like... I'd probably bring it up and ask him about it! See what he says?
Or he could just be a straight guy who is turned on by gay porn. Not doing it with gay guys, but watching gay guys do it.
Sure, it might sound weird, but it doesn't necessarily mean he's gay, especially if he's really turned on by you during sex. Are there other indications that he might not be really into women or is this the only one? Be sensitive when you're asking him about it if you want to get a truthful answer.
If he does turn out to be bi, then you have no problem, he likes guys, but he really likes girls (like you!) too.
If he's gay, there are some other issues that need to be worked out. Don't freak out about it too much. Sexuality is really complex.
Last edited by something_witty; 08-21-2004 at 01:55 PM.
Wow, theres some ignorant folks in this room. Girls readily admit liking to watch 2 girls go at it and say it doesnt make them bi, but for a guy it makes him gay? Not sure how that works. And maybe some of you guys need to realize there is no "average guy". No guy is gonna come clean as to being curious about that stuff so "average guys" might not be as average as you think.
Girls readily admit liking to watch 2 girls go at it and say it doesnt make them bi, but for a guy it makes him gay? Not sure how that works
Aren't sexist double standards wonderful? But even if you turn the situation around, and a husband discovers his wife has nothing but a ton of lesbian porn on her computer, don't you think that would make him wonder if she was at least bi or bi-curious? (Oh and just because someone says it doesn't make them bi, doesn't mean it ain't so... then it's just a matter of labels and symantics.)