I'm just curious as to whether or not having frequent orgasms can increase your sex drive or diminish it. I've heard some say that the more orgasms you have, the more you will want it. Then on the other hand I've heard some say that if they masterbate the day they are going to be seeing their partner, they don't want it as bad. Hmmm... I know there is one woman on here that says she masturbates 2-3 times a day and then still wants it with her husband when he comes home.
My sex drive is directly related to my cycle. My desire diminishes only for a short time after orgasm. My desire, and capability are two different things. I usually have one orgasm everytime during sex. If I have masterbated recently it can be much harder for me to have an orgasm with sex . Not sure why. Also, my orgasms are much stronger if I have a couple of days between them, and the Kegals help a lot too.
Last edited by desertdweller; 08-20-2004 at 10:47 AM.
I'm still trying to understand the whole "Kegal" exercise thing. I do know how to do them. How often throughout the day do you do them? I have done them during intercourse only to clamp down on my boyfriends penis, but I'm still trying to figure out what this is supposed to do for me sexually. Maybe I just need to do them more. I just recently started the exercises.
I've done them since I was a kid, way before I knew what they were (I guess I just thought it was cool that you could flex down there. I know, I'm weird)
You've already noticed one benefit of them, that you can grip your boyfriend. The stronger a woman's pubococcyl (sp?) muscles, the more she will respond to g-spot stimulation. So, if you do lots of them and it's really in shape, sex can feel better. I think it can probably contribute to strength of orgasms, too. Mine can last up to two minutes, with a sudden climax and then kinda rhythmic contractions. Do any other women have this?
I pretty much do them whenever I get bored. After awhile they feel good, but you probably want to start out slow and build up so that you don't get muscle soreness. After about a month of doing them, see if your boyfriend using his fingers on your g-spot feels better or more intense.
Kegel excercises will also be helpful in the long run, especially when you're older and your body begins to wear out a little. They'll help you so that you don't wet yourself, which in my humble opinion is a big plus!
edit: as for the masturbation, I find that it doesn't diminish my sex drive, but it can increase how long it takes for me to orgasm. My sex drive varies a little with my cycle, but not much. Stress and emotional distress will lower it more than anything else. If you're not masturbating to orgasm, I could definitely see how it would raise your desire, especially if that boyfriend or hubby is on his way home.
Last edited by something_witty; 08-20-2004 at 01:34 PM.
Wow, two minutes?? I wish I could have an orgasm that long!! The problem I seem to have is that once I get into it, I have an orgasm pretty fast, and it dosen't last very long. And, then once it's over, I loose my desire for quite a while. In fact, I have always kind of felt like, once I orgasm, I just want to get dressed. You would think I was a guy the way I don't really like the 'cuddling after' thing. Did you have to do some type of exercises to build up to two minutes? I have heard of multiple orgasms, but have never experienced that myself. Anyway, I was just kind of wondering if any of you had that where you loose the desire after. In fact, that's kind of why I like to do oral on my partner first, so that I can still be turned on for him, otherwise, I lose interest, and kind of have to fake it more. It's easy for me to get turned on in the first place, though. I enjoy watching porn, and I guess I feel a little guilty about that. It does help, though!!
I have no idea if it's from strength of the muscles or just the way I am. I had my first orgasm when I was 9 or 10 years old (waaay before I was sexually mature), so I might just be a weird (lucky?) one. :-P Some of it just might be from lots of, um, "practicing."
Have you ever tried continuing masturbating or other types of contact after you climax? That area is pretty sensitive right afterwards, but if you do it lightly or gently it might start to feel good soon after.
Some people just aren't cuddlers. So long as your boyfriend knows and respects that it shouldn't be too much of an issue
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