this is a carry-over post from the Relationship Health board. My husband and I have been together for 7 years. We use to have the GREATEST sex!!!
About 4 years ago he got a vasectomy so we wouldn't have to worry about birth control. (He has 5 kids and I have 2 all grown and moved out/married except for two of his the live with us part time) Anyway, after the vasectomy he no longer had a sex drive. I know this is a mental thing and not a physical problem. He is still able to have sex, achieve and maintain an erection, have an orgasm, etc. but the drive is no longer there. He always has excuses that he's tired, there's no time, etc. We have tried going away for the weekend for time to ourselves but nothing seems to help. He understands there is a problem but he thinks it's not that big of a deal. He believes marriages can be perfectly happy without sex. Well, I'm 42 and I'm at my sexual peek right now. I've tried talking to him HUNDREDS of times so don't bother suggesting that. I've talked to my Dr. about it and he suggested my husband get a testosterone shot. My husband agreed to see a dr but never did. So that is where I am now....that's why the affair was just a sexual thing for me....I just needed to feel wanted.
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