Yeah absolutely. You can feel pretty wild contractions, pretty much impossible not to notice, sometimes it can be so heavy that she can force you out of her and you pop out. If the guy only cares about his own orgasm, then he will probably not pay attention to her though, this is why girls can get away with it.
Yeah....everything he said, and you can really feel the nails digging into your back....Thats a killer when the really dig in.....thats a pretty good sign usually....and yeah you can feel it to.
Not always - I usually have strong contractions when I orgasm, but some women don't get those. There's no surefire way to tell, especially if she has very weak contractions or none at all.
The problem with REALLY being able to tell if your gf is having a real orgasm as opposed to faking it is that pretty much every physical sign that women exhibits for orgasm can be faked. Stuff like nail scratching, moaning, toe curling, whatever, are totally fakable. The real involuntary muscular contractions that women have are also fakable to a degree, she just has to squeeze her Kegel muscles and unless the guy is a real expert and has experienced the difference with that partner, it would be hard for a guy to know for sure, provided she's also a good actress. This is just one of those trust issues...
From a statistical standpoint, if she is having an orgasm from intercourse alone (no clitoral stimulation at all) odds are 4 out of 5 that she is faking it, because only about 1 out of 5 woman can have orgasms from penetration alone. If there is some clitoral stimulation going on, odds are MUCH better. So make sure the odds are in your favour!
Early in our marriage I was pretty much a selfish guy, sort of "lets have a nooner" thinking only of my satifaction. Then my wife once told me that she was pertending because I wasn't doing any foreplay to get her ready, she then had to masturbate after I went back to work, After we talked about this I realized all this was happening, so we slowed down and I was more concerned about her being ready. THEN WOW, did I know she was enjoying and having orgasms!! She would ask me to stimulate her clitoris along with vaginal intercourse. No faking then.
...you should be able to tell by her breathing patterns...they will definetly change as she gets closer and her heart rate races...she will most likely be holding her breath on and off right before...
All of it is very easily faked...the breathing, shaking, contractions, screaming... whatever. I love it when guys say they ALWAYS know. No, you don't. Unless she's a gusher, there's no 100% way of knowing on every girl.
It can all be faked if someone really knows what they're doing and are a good actress unless she's a gusher as tictac put it.For the most part guys don't really know what to look for unless they know someone very well.And every girl is not build the same; they aren't going to all have the exact same reaction to orgasiming so you can't prove a girl isn't just because she doesn't react the same way another girl does.
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I faked EVERY one until this I got with my husband last year. Not 1 ever knew and thought they were the best lovers in the world. Simple to do, especially when the man is caught up in some pleasure of his own. The WHY? Many reasons. I had never been able to orgasm before during sex, so each man figured he was going to be the one to "fix" me. You can only take so much before you are so tired you want it over. And then you didn't want to crush their male ego because you cared for them, so you get theatrical. Then, because they think you came once, it becomes expected. If you can't come, you can't come and banging away for another half hour is not going to help-so you fake it and make him feel good. So then you kind of get stuck in the lie and have to continue. It sucked and was not worth it looking back, but it saved hurt feelings and sore genitals.
Yeah, I've faked a couple (then made a new year's resolution never to do it again). The only reason I did was because I knew it just wasn't going to happen, but the guy just wouldn't let it be. Now I just tell him gently that it's alright, while it feels good it's just not happening tonight. It's almost never his fault; usually it's just when I'm having my period and the underwear is still on and I have a tampon in, so it's just too dry to be comfortable. (tmi, i know)
I felt so guilty when I faked though. It's not fair to anyone, yourself or the person you're with!
In our two year relationship, my boyfriend has "felt" me orgasm ONE time. I have orgasmed with him MANY times, but my contractions just weren't stong enough to feel. I will never foget the look on his face. He looked up at me, eyes wide, and said, "oh my god, I FELT that!" It was cute. Anyway, I agree with everyone who said that pretty much everything about a female orgasm can be faked. This is very true, and I will even admit that I've faked a few to make my man feel like he accomplished something. So yes, it's possible to feel a female orgasm, but unless you know her really well, she could even be faking those contractions.
There are a lot of reason, and Carol888 gave some good ones, and here's another: because a lot of women (usually younger ones) and a LOT of men are under the impression that women are supposed to have orgasms from intercourse alone, and when the woman can't, she thinks there's something wrong with HER so in order to save herself embarrassment at being perceived as disfunctional, she will fake that orgasm she thinks she's supposed to have. The other reason is that even if a woman is totally aware of this misconception, she might not be willing to educate her partner to this fact. Sometimes it's easier to let him enjoy his fantasy rather than crush him.
Women do not usually do it to be mean, it is usually done to spare someone's feelings.
(<.< stupid / commands....)
I don't buy that at all. It hurts a guy a lot more to learn she faked it and didn't trust him rather then telling him upfront so that they could solve the problem together. What ever happened to all that "communication" women are always preaching about?
Tyoka, I think that most women who fake aren't actually thinking of telling a guy later that she did. I know some men who have faked orgasms as well (they were drunk and even though they could get hard they weren't able to "finish"), and in all cases it was so that the person they were with wouldn't feel bad or inadequate.
I've learned that communication does work way better, as does being comfortable enough with your boyfriend/husband that you can tell him what you want or if it's just not going to happen that night. I know that I enjoy giving as much as receiving, so it's not all about orgasm with me. I think if more guys and girls knew about that attitude it might take away some of the performance anxiety away. After all, being nervous and feeling bad about lying is such a mood killer.
Here's my reply on a different board but on same topic which might be of interest to read:
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from a guys perspective althogh I'm sure my g/f has orgasmed with me inside her, I've never felt any muscles contracting.... occasionally I have to tell a little white lie to avoid hurting her feelings, because conversation usually goes a bit like this...
"oh wow that was great..." (she)
"great!.....<blah chat blah>.... what ? you really came?" (me)
"yes silly!!... my god didn't you feel that... wow..."
and I'm like... "err... well maybe a little squeeze" (not)
"oh :-( oh babes... :-( (cough)"
"on my god babes.. cough again.. i felt that...."
"great...! so why can't you feel that squeeze inside me when having sex or when I orgasm?"
"dunno babes... dunno.... :-("
:-(
anyone know why she can't squeeze me when having sex / orgasms, but can if she coughs? Doesn't seem fair... as I don't feel much anyway with sex so perhaps I can get her to cough non-stop while having sex (only kidding!)
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well in a previos relationship my partner was honest and I was in experience but when she did have an orgasm I thought something was wrong...
and we had been having sex for a long time..
she told me that is was the first time she had ever orgasmed nad she had had other partners before.. actually as good as it felt for the both of us when she orgasmed I got scared... for me there was a definate difference but I agree women know best and if they say they can orgasm without a guy feeling it then it is 100% true... and believe me tell here to be honest let her know that you would rather know if you are really pleasing her than just living a lie.
cause if she isn't enjoying it as much as she can not only are you definatly cheating her out of her share but your cheating yourself so number one advice listen to your lady and don't assume... if she likes it she will let you know...
and definatley make her feel comfortable with sex talk. make it a subject that is open not a taboo act of shame
guys, can you feel a girl orgasm? 
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