Should I do this for him? - Sexual Health - General Message Board

ElizabethAnne88 · 04-29-2005, 11:45 AM

Hi Everyone,

I have a rather strange question for you all. I am friends with this guy (I'm 20 and he is 23). Well, we see each other at least once a week but he has this girlfriend you see. We go out out to eat often, and he's offered to make the drive to get me, or I'll drive to his apartment and we will just hang out there, or we'll go shopping together or to the movies, etc. First of all, everyone tells me he likes me EVEN THOUGH he has this girlfriend. Last week when I was sitting in his apartment with him, she called and he rarely will tell her I'm there, or when I get uneasy about hearing them talk on the phone he'll say "Are you mad I was talking to my girlfriend?"

He knows I like him but I'm continuing to go back to this even though he has a girlfriend.

Here's the thing: TWICE...Not once but TWICE, he has asked to watch me masturbate. The first time I thought he was joking and he dropped the subject after I kept telling him to get serious. A week or so later I confronted him about it and he got mad at ME. Well, two nights ago we were talking on IM and he asked me AGAIN. He said he wants to EVEN THINGS OUT since he wanted me to watch HIM do it a long time ago. I know this all makes me sound like a very kinky person (I'm actually still a virgin) but I don't know what to say to him. Does he want me sexually? Would guys ask ANY girl to do that for them? Is this cheating on his girlfriend, what he is doing with me?

behindmyshades · 04-29-2005, 11:47 AM

I wouldn't do it.
Tell him to ask his girlfriend to do it for him.
He's disrespecting both of you.

punkrokchk2000 · 04-29-2005, 12:13 PM

In my opinion he's cheating on his girlfriend. Period.

I wonder if his girlfriend even knows about you?

justinluck · 04-29-2005, 12:15 PM

Elizabeth, you are worth more than this. You, like any girl, deserves a guy who is into you and only into you.

Thisby · 04-29-2005, 04:18 PM

The title you named this thread implies you are actually considering it!!!! Are you serious? The actual post sounds more like you're just asking 'what's up with this?'

The guy obviously want to do something with you and he must have it in his head that having you watch him masturbate isn't cheating. Well, it IS cheating. And he's quite a jerk for even asking. That's totally disrespecting you and his girlfriend. Asking someone else to watch them masturbate, or vice versa, is WAY out of line for someone with a girlfriend. And I don't think this is a normal thing to do.

(btw, of course he doesn't tell his gf when you are there, it's totally suspicious behavior)