my sex drive is higher than my boyfriends - Sexual Health - General Message Board

br1tt713 · 01-13-2006, 02:47 PM

i have this problem where i want to have sex way more than my boyfriend does...he actually told me that it turned him off because i want to have sex so much...i have tried so hard not to be so horny all the time, so now i masturbate aaalllll the time, we still have sex at least once a day. i just thought that since hes 24 his sex drive should be really high, and im only 18...would this situation turn guys off? please help

Gundam · 01-13-2006, 04:55 PM

I was actually once turned off by a girl who constantly wanted sex. When you have had a long day at work, the last thing you wanna do is to have sex with your GF. But that's just me

yossl · 01-13-2006, 08:56 PM

Have you asked your boyfriend if he really enjoys the way you have sex? By that I mean is he placing pressure on himself to "perform" and that can create an aversion to sex. I had a similar situation with my wife, because I felt that I had to stimulate my wife through intercourse, I became increasingly frustrated as I am very small and fell out all the time. This had been going on for years. It was only when we stopped to really explore the problem it took my mind off trying to get an erection and pleasure her. Now we try all sorts of games, and techniques and have much better sex, even though i have my limitations. Maybe try this with your boyfriend.

Fabat40 · 01-13-2006, 09:11 PM

Br1tt713

Oh my gosh, I have a similar problem!!!

When I was your age, I had a VERY, VERY high sex drive. Sorry to tell you this but it gets worst as you get near 30 years of age. At that time, my ex-BF was also 18 and had a pretty high sex drive, but I wanted more! Five or 6 times a day was normal for us. Then as I got into my 20s, it became worst and worst and that's when I discovered "toys".

They're great BTW. When I co-habitated at 27, my ex-BF at the time "complained" HAHAHAHA!!! Because I had to have it at "least" 7 times a day and sometimes, I'd seduce him into meeting me for lunch so we can have sex!!! LOL Anyway, now that I'm 41, my fiance loves it - he's younger than me, but he can still keep up.

Don't worry hon, you'll find a man who'd appreciate it. Yeah, there are men out there who would get turned off and this is what I don't get... a lot of men watch porn for the fact that the woman on the porn movie is hornier than a dog in spring time and here we are in the flesh and they get turned off?

I discovered toys.... get used to them and they're actually fun! LOL But when you find a man who appreciates your drive, you won't need the toys as much.

Good luck sweetie. And don't worry, there's nothing wrong with you. We just have high sex drives.

neflin · 01-13-2006, 09:24 PM

Have to tell you girls that this does not necessarily go away. This is just the way you are. Maybe good genes. They say that you should be happy for this. I am.

I was never as bad as I am now. I have doctored for this and find that there is really nothing that can be done for it rather than give me a pill that could change my sexuality. It can not be reversed. I have lost about 50 pounds which brought this on strongly. Luckily I have a wonderful husband but I just will not take any pill. I believe some women are just like this. I was not as bad in my younger years as I am now. They have spoken of the name Persistant Sexual Arousal but I do not believe it is this. I do not have any symptons of this. As you say just horny. Like you have said masturbating is a choice and there are many implements that you can use. Many. So ladies in your 30's you have along ways to go. I will be 69 my next birthday. But so very happy.