It appears you have not yet registered with our community. To register please click here...


 Home Message Boards Videos Join for Free User Blogs Board Index
Search
 
Forgot your username or password?


Sexual Health - General Message Board
Post New Thread   Closed Thread
Share
 
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread Display Modes
Old 08-29-2006, 01:49 AM   #1
Newbie
(male)
 
Join Date: Aug 2006
Posts: 4
Hugs: 0
Hugged 0 Times in 0 Posts
Thanks: 0
Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
circlequay HB User
Lousy sex :(

I've been seeing a girl for a few months. She is a medical student from China and very attractive. She told me that her only past sexual partner was her ex-husband and that she didn't even know about sex until she started university. I'm definitely very attracted to her and she's certainly open minded. But so far it has been a little uncomfortable for me, and at times painful! She seems to favor being on top--but instead of performing the usual motion, she gyrates backwards and forwards...sometimes so hard that I'm afraid she'll injure my penis. I don't know how anyone could come to the idea that that's the way to do it, much less a medical student. And I never thought I'd say this, but I don't enjoy receiving oral sex from her. She focuses all her attention on the head of my penis, causing it to feel quite sore. I find myself faking pleasure when I'm actually in a good deal of discomfort. I often lose my erection and I think she's starting to think that I'm the one having performance problems.
The good thing is that she's open minded and enjoys sex. But how do I tell her that she's doing everything wrong (especially after faking it all this time)?

Last edited by circlequay; 08-29-2006 at 01:52 AM.

 
Sponsors Lightbulb
   
Old 08-29-2006, 05:14 AM   #2
Senior Veteran
(female)
 
Join Date: Dec 2005
Posts: 648
Hugs: 0
Hugged 0 Times in 0 Posts
Thanks: 0
Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post
daisy-duke77 HB User
Re: Lousy sex :(

Communication is the answer................BUT............... a hard topic to discuss. Especially if your relationship with her is new. Have you tried any other positions? Or does she always initiate? Alot of women love to be on top..................since that is the way we can orgasm with intercourse.
There are ways you can talk about it.............during or afterwards. Sometimes during is best..............initiate a different position etc. Believe me, you dont want to NOT enjoy sex with her.............and fake pleasure. Especially if you are in discomfort.

 
Old 08-29-2006, 07:45 AM   #3
Senior Veteran
(female)
 
rosequartz's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2005
Posts: 9,226
Hugs: 3
Hugged 28 Times in 27 Posts
Thanks: 13
Thanked 189 Times in 177 Posts
rosequartz HB Userrosequartz HB Userrosequartz HB Userrosequartz HB Userrosequartz HB Userrosequartz HB Userrosequartz HB Userrosequartz HB Userrosequartz HB Userrosequartz HB Userrosequartz HB User
Re: Lousy sex :(

don't tell her she's doing everything wrong!



just subtly suggest.....why don't you try this? or I think it would feel really good if you tried it this way....or something to that effect.

communicate!

 
Old 08-29-2006, 04:46 PM   #4
Senior Veteran
(female)
 
Join Date: Nov 2002
Posts: 5,265
Hugs: 0
Hugged 8 Times in 8 Posts
Thanks: 1
Thanked 38 Times in 36 Posts
Thisby HB UserThisby HB UserThisby HB UserThisby HB UserThisby HB UserThisby HB UserThisby HB UserThisby HB UserThisby HB User
Re: Lousy sex :(

Quote:
Originally Posted by circlequay
She seems to favor being on top--but instead of performing the usual motion, she gyrates backwards and forwards...sometimes so hard that I'm afraid she'll injure my penis. I don't know how anyone could come to the idea that that's the way to do it, much less a medical student.
Um, because that's the way she gets pleasure from it? Believe it or not, the main reason the woman-on-top position is supposed to be so good for the woman is because this way she can rub her clitoris against you which is something she can only control in that position. You do know that that's what a woman needs, right? Implying she doesn't know what she is doing is actually just showing your inexperience. Anyway, if you didn't like it, and it was hurting you, you should have spoken up right away. As you can see, not speaking up has only made it worse for you... same goes for her oral technique.

Anyway, you're going to have to talk to her, but DON'T tell her she's doing it 'wrong', it's just not how you like it. What you should do is tell her how you DO like it.

 
Old 08-31-2006, 05:47 PM   #5
zak zak is offline
Inactive
(male)
 
Join Date: Jan 2003
Posts: 203
Hugs: 0
Hugged 0 Times in 0 Posts
Thanks: 0
Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
zak HB User
Re: Lousy sex :(

If you're not enjoying it she IS doing it wrong.

Rent a porno and watch it with her pointing out what you like and say things like "would you like to try that", "that's the way I like oral" etc.

 
Closed Thread

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Board Replies Last Post
A Little Rant-Last Week Was Lousy. HELLASRULES Cancer: Lung 12 09-22-2007 07:58 AM
new to the needle and feeling lousy twokatss Diabetes 4 08-19-2007 11:28 AM
Feeling absolutely horrid cleanstart Addiction & Recovery 13 12-10-2004 10:32 PM
I feel lousy! Nonny6 Bipolar Disorder 3 11-05-2004 04:50 AM
Ten Lousy Pounds tacota Weight Loss 5 09-07-2004 12:55 PM
New job and feeling really lousy LuvMyLilDoggie Thyroid Disorders 17 07-22-2004 03:31 PM
what do you do on those days when you just feel lousy? curlyroller Thyroid Disorders 5 07-20-2004 12:24 PM
45, Gastro Symptoms...Extreme Fatigue...and Feeling Lousy busymommy Menopause 42 06-10-2004 09:40 AM
Does anyone cycle from feeling ok to lousy? happy4us Thyroid Disorders 8 12-01-2003 10:56 AM
Told my Dr. Lipitor makes me feel lousy - no more meds ! Fuchsia_Lay High Cholesterol 8 05-05-2003 08:26 PM




Bookmarks

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is Off
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off











Message Boards
  • Open to All Other Health Topics
  • It's Life - Off Topic Discussions
  • Natural Disaster Sympathies and Support
  • Health News
  • HealthBoards Testimonials
  • Suggestions for New Boards
  • Registration/Membership/Site Problems
  • Health Issues
  • General Health
  • Abuse Support
  • Acid Reflux / GERD
  • Acne
  • Share Your Acne Story
  • Acne Tips
  • Acute Respiratory Distress Syndrome (ARDS)
  • ADD / ADHD
  • Addiction & Recovery
  • Addison's Disease
  • Aging Issues
  • Allergies
  • Alternative Medicine
  • Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia
  • Amputation / Prosthetic
  • Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis (ALS)
  • Anemia
  • Aneurysm
  • Anger Management
  • Angina
  • Anxiety
  • Share Your Anxiety Story
  • Anxiety Tips
  • Arthritis
  • Asperger's Syndrome
  • Asthma
  • Autism Spectrum
  • Autoimmune Disorders
  • Back Problems
  • Beauty & Cosmetics
  • Bell's Palsy
  • Bipolar Disorder
  • Birth Control
  • Blood and Blood Vessel
  • Bone Disorders
  • Bowel Disorders
  • Brain & Head Injury
  • Brain & Nervous System Disorders
  • Brain Tumors
  • Breastfeeding
  • Burns & Injuries
  • Cancer
  • Cancer: Bladder
  • Cancer: Bone
  • Cancer: Brain
  • Cancer: Breast
  • Cancer: Cervical & Ovarian
  • Cancer: Colon
  • Cancer: Esophageal
  • Cancer: Kidney
  • Cancer: Lung
  • Cancer: Oral
  • Cancer: Pancreatic & Liver
  • Cancer: Prostate
  • Cancer: Rectal & Anal
  • Cancer: Skin
  • Cancer: Stomach
  • Cancer: Testicular
  • Cancer: Throat
  • Cancer: Thyroid
  • Cancer: Uterine
  • Candida
  • Caregivers
  • Carpal Tunnel Syndrome
  • Celiac Disease
  • Cerebral Palsy
  • Chemotherapy
  • Children - Special Needs
  • Children's Health
  • Chronic Fatigue
  • Codependency
  • Colds & Flu
  • Swine Flu (H1N1)
  • Cosmetic / Plastic Surgery
  • Costochondritis
  • Crohn's Disease / Ulcerative Colitis
  • Cystic Fibrosis
  • Death & Dying
  • Degenerative Diseases
  • Dental Health
  • Depression
  • Share Your Depression Story
  • Depression Tips
  • Diabetes
  • Hypoglycemia
  • Diet & Nutrition
  • Digestive Disorders
  • Disabilities
  • Divorce & Separation
  • Dizziness / Vertigo
  • Down Syndrome
  • Drug Interactions
  • Dyslexia
  • Dysphagia
  • Ear, Nose & Throat
  • Eating Disorder Recovery
  • Endocrine Disorders
  • Endometriosis
  • Environmental Disorders
  • Epilepsy
  • Epstein Barr Virus (EBV)
  • Exercise & Fitness
  • Eye & Vision
  • Family & Friends of Cancer Patients
  • Family & Friends of the Mentally Ill
  • Family Planning / Adoption
  • Fibromyalgia
  • Foot Problems
  • Gallbladder
  • Genetic Disorders
  • Grief & Loss
  • Hair Loss / Alopecia
  • Hair Problems
  • Headaches & Migraines
  • Health Insurance Issues
  • Healthcare Professionals
  • Healthy Lifestyle
  • Hearing Disorders
  • Heart Disorders
  • Hepatitis
  • Hernia
  • Herpes
  • High & Low Blood Pressure
  • High Cholesterol
  • HIV Prevention
  • HIV/AIDS Living With
  • Hormone Problems
  • Hospice
  • Human Papillomavirus (HPV)
  • Hypochondria
  • Hysterectomy
  • Immune Disorders
  • Incontinence
  • Infant Care (up to 18 months old)
  • Infectious Diseases
  • Infertility
  • Share Your Infertility Story
  • Inner Ear Disorders
  • Interstitial Cystitis (IC)
  • Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS)
  • Kidney Disorders
  • Knee & Hip Problems
  • Lasik Eye Surgery
  • Learning Disorders
  • Leukemia
  • Liver & Pancreas Disorders
  • Lung & Respiratory Disorders / COPD
  • Lupus
  • Lyme Disease
  • Share Your Lyme Disease Story
  • Lymphedema
  • Lymphomas
  • Men's Health
  • Menopause
  • Mental Health
  • Mesothelioma
  • Military Health Issues
  • Miscarriage & Still Birth
  • Mononucleosis
  • Multiple Sclerosis
  • Muscular Dystrophy
  • Myositis
  • Nail Problems
  • Neurofibromatosis
  • Neurology
  • Neuromuscular Diseases
  • Neuropathy
  • Nutritional Disorders
  • Obesity
  • Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
  • Occupational Health & Safety
  • Orthopedic
  • Osteoporosis
  • Pain Management
  • Chronic Pain
  • Share Your Pain Management Story
  • Panic Disorders
  • Paralysis
  • Parenting Issues
  • Parkinson's Disease
  • Personality Disorder
  • Phobias
  • Pituitary Disease
  • Polio
  • Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS)
  • Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
  • Postpartum Depression (PPD)
  • Pregnancy
  • Share Your Pregnancy Story
  • Pregnancy Tips
  • 2010 Mommies
  • 2011 Mommies
  • Pregnancy-Teen
  • Prostatitis
  • Psoriasis
  • Rape / Sexual Abuse
  • Rare Disorders
  • Raynaud's Syndrome
  • Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy
  • Relationship Health
  • Restless Leg Syndrome
  • Rosacea
  • Sarcoidosis
  • Schizophrenia
  • Scoliosis
  • Self-injury Recovery
  • Senior Health
  • Sexual Dysfunction Treatment
  • Sexual Health - General
  • Sexual Health - Men
  • Sexual Health - Teens
  • Sexual Health - Women
  • Sexually Transmitted Diseases
  • Shingles
  • Shoulder / Rotator Cuff Problems
  • Shyness
  • Sickle Cell Anemia
  • Sinus Problems
  • Sjögren's Syndrome
  • Skin Problems
  • Sleep Disorders
  • Smoking Cessation
  • Speech & Language Disorders
  • Spinal Cord Disorders
  • Stress
  • Stroke
  • Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS)
  • Teen Health
  • Thyroid Disorders
  • TMJ Disorder -TemporoMandibular Joint
  • Tourette Syndrome
  • Transplants
  • Trigeminal Neuralgia
  • Trying to Conceive (TTC)
  • Urology
  • Vaccination & Immunization
  • Vitamins & Supplements
  • Weight Loss
  • Weight Loss / Surgical
  • West Nile Virus
  • Women's Health



  • TOP THANKED CONTRIBUTORS

    Sexual Health - General

    writeleft (6), Kali333 (4), Tivo123 (4), Whoopee (3), chocolate29 (2), gardenandcats (2), walkingtall (2), thaliak (2), mju58 (2), Thisby (2)

    Site Wide Totals

    thanbey (581), janewhite1 (528), BlueSkies14 (511), SpineAZ (484), DGabriel10 (469), mscat40 (424), tetonteri66 (421), jennybyc (404), sammy64 (392), jgrangran (364)

    All times are GMT -7. The time now is 10:02 AM.



    Site owned and operated by HealthBoards.com™
    Copyright and Terms of Use © 1998-2012 HealthBoards.com™ All rights reserved.
    Do not copy or redistribute in any form!


    SEO by vBSEO ©2011, Crawlability, Inc.