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Old 05-10-2007, 08:36 AM   #1
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Help! I think my parents know this

I just saw my underpants that at the front, they are a somewhat white color, probably because of sperm (after I have been playing with myself).

My mum is the who washes my clothes, so I think, or actually KNOW that she knows that I have "done that".

Its not that I think they have a problem with it. But I have a problem with the fact that they know that I "do this thing with myself". They may have known this for several years. And I am so ashamed.

I feel I have completely lost my dignity.

I don't feel like I want to live anymore. My totally private secret is now known by my parents - who should NEVER know that I have been "doing this terrible thing" with myself.

Because I feel very ashamed of doing it, yet I still do it. I think it is wrong. I think I am completely... disturbed, wierd. And without dignity and honor.

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Old 05-10-2007, 08:53 AM   #2
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it's completely normal.....it probably dripped out while you were sleeping....

you could always start doing your own laundry!


 
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Old 05-10-2007, 09:17 AM   #3
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Re: Help! I think my parents know this

Hey come on mate you have to relax about this.

Believe me I understand what it is to be a bloke...obviously...and to masturbate is totally normal like rosequartz said.

I mean you should not be ashamed of yourself, you seem very worked up about what your parents think, but consider this...if it was something they frowned upon or were totally against, do you not think they would have approached you ??

Without trying to make it sound weird, your mum may have told your dad, and they may have both smiled in a "he's growing up" sort of way.

If you dont mind me asking, how old are you ???

 
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Re: Help! I think my parents know this

Your parents have some proof that you are human. I bet they suspected all along. Both your mom and dad have seen semen before. Relax. Life is for living.

 
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Re: Help! I think my parents know this

do you think she's gonna look THAT close at your undies when she does the laundry?? highly unlikely. i just grab the like colors and toss in the machine. i don't inspect anyones undergarments or any other clothing. even if she saw it she prob wouldn't think much about it. prob seen worse..like "skid marks"..lol
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Hey come on mate you have to relax about this.

Believe me I understand what it is to be a bloke...obviously...and to masturbate is totally normal like rosequartz said.

I mean you should not be ashamed of yourself, you seem very worked up about what your parents think, but consider this...if it was something they frowned upon or were totally against, do you not think they would have approached you ??

Without trying to make it sound weird, your mum may have told your dad, and they may have both smiled in a "he's growing up" sort of way.

If you dont mind me asking, how old are you ???
I am 21 years old. I am probably too old to do this kind of thing.
To me, in my litle world, sexuality is a sin. I am even ashamed that I was born because my parents had sex. I am a product of sexual activity. I feel very ashamed...

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I am 21 years old. I am probably too old to do this kind of thing.
To me, in my litle world, sexuality is a sin. I am even ashamed that I was born because my parents had sex. I am a product of sexual activity. I feel very ashamed...

Have you tried to get counseling for this problem?

 
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Yeah it sounds like it is something that has mentally scarred you at some time during your life...the being born you could not help, it is a life cycle.

Is there a time in your life that you remember seeing sex or hearing it and that was the pivot point to it all...to when you suddenly engrained it that it was wrong ??

 
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I understand that you're feeling bad right now, but try to see this from a more "big picture" perspective. The fact of the matter is, at some point or another, everyone has done that in their lives. It's actually a normal human function. And actually, when they were younger, I'm sure at some point your parents did that, too. It's pretty much a guarantee.

I know there are a lot of different cultures and religions that frown upon this type of behavior, however, the fact of the matter is that we're all human beings. We all have human emotions and human feelings over the course of our lives. It's a fact of life. And there is nothing wrong with having normal human feelings like that. I hope that you can learn to understand this because it's not something that should make a person feel upset or whatever.

But also, you're 21 years old and really you should probably be doing your own laundry. I'm not trying to be mean but at that age, you should really be handling that kind of stuff yourself. We all get spoiled when we are younger and living with our parents, because usually our moms do our laundry then. But as we get older, we really need to learn how to do that stuff on our own. I mean, when you eventually move out on your own, you'll have to know how to do it, and there's no better time than the present to learn! Laundry, while a really annoying thing to have to do, is one of those necessary things that we have to do unless we want to walk around being stinky, right?

 
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Is there a time in your life that you remember seeing sex or hearing it and that was the pivot point to it all...to when you suddenly engrained it that it was wrong ??
Yes. A friend of mine once showed me a porn video.
And I found it disgusting.

 
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i think it goes deeper then a porn video. have you ever been mistreated in a sexual way when you were younger? i don't know of any religion/culture that says "no sex period". (munks maybe?) if that were the case..how did they get here to make that rule? most say no sex till marriage. and self pleasure is a sin in their books. but to each their own. i would think doing yourself would be a far less sin then doing someone else in any culture. so don't feel disgusted. like some pp's have said...its human nature. and do your own laundry dude!
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i think it goes deeper then a porn video. have you ever been mistreated in a sexual way when you were younger? i don't know of any religion/culture that says "no sex period". (munks maybe?) if that were the case..how did they get here to make that rule? most say no sex till marriage. and self pleasure is a sin in their books. but to each their own. i would think doing yourself would be a far less sin then doing someone else in any culture. so don't feel disgusted. like some pp's have said...its human nature. and do your own laundry dude!
First of all: When I am not at home, but at my own address I do my own laundry. But not when I am at home in my parents house...

Secondly:

I have never been mistreated (at least not sexually). And my family is a mix of agnostics and atheists, so I've not come under religious influence.

It is just that I... have difficulties accepting sexuality (I am even afraid of falling in love).

 
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Hey bro,

First of all, whether your parents saw anything in your undewear or not, they know you masterbate! Everyone does! You say you are 21 and shouldn't do that anymore.....why? I'm 40 and still do it. Everyone I know still does it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. That's your biggest issue, you for some reason or another have incorrectly associated sex and masturbation as a bad/negative thing. It's just the opposite, it's quite normal and if you weren't doing it then there would be a problem.

I agree with some of the others that you should seek counselling. Once you become comfortable with human sexuality and in particular, your own sexuality, you'll feel soooo much better.

Good luck!
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