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Old 05-28-2007, 05:45 AM   #1
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I like to look at a very large amount of gay or homosexual pornographic video's. I know I have a girlfriend who I have had sex with and that I am seeing on and off for the past few months but, the thing is, I like to fantasize and masturbate to gay pictures, and video's. Does that make me gay? I mean I haven't ever considered being around another man. It's against my way of life but I just sometimes watch things and fantasize quite a bit these days. I don't want to think of myself as homosexual, I'm more of a heterosexual than a homosexual. But I just don't know anymore. Any ideas guys?

 
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Re: Im curious, I like to..

Regardless of it being "against your way of life", the gender you are fantasizing about when you are masturbating is usually a pretty good indication of your sexual orientation. Or at least an indication of being bi-curious.

You are obviously unsure or you wouldn't be here. I think you have some thinking to do. Good luck to you.

 
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I don't think there is anything wrong with what you are doing or feeling. I actually think that most guys think or even act upon certain same sex feelings. I don't think it necessarily makes you homosexual at all. I think there can be a distinct difference between certain sexual feelings and whether or not you are gay. I think it is possible to be hetrosexual and think or even experience homosexual situations. Bi-curious I guess but don't let it scare you..just be safe.

 
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You and only you can ultimately answer the question as to your sexual orientation. DO NOT let others tell you that you are gay. I am an avid crossdresser. I love to wear womens clothes, in particular ladies lingerie. I had so many people in forums and chat rooms and other like places to tell me that I was gay and didn't know it that I began to believe it. I actually allowed myself to begin to think that I was gay. So I took the next logical step. I decided to be intimate with a man. I was of course dressed all sexy for him. And what I found was that I hated every aspect of anything remotely resembling having sex with this man. I couldn't touch him, I certainly wouldn't let him touch me. Ultimately he dressed and left while I profusely apologizied to him. I was lucky, he was very understanding. So decide for yourself. And trust your own inner self. You will be fine.
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I think it's also important to keep in mind that what you fantasize about and what you would ACTUALLY do if given the opportunity could be two totally different things. If you really think you could get into it and really enjoy it if the opportunity presented itself then you might have to consider what's going on. But if it's just a fantasy and nothing more, then I don't think it's really a cause for concern. And in a roundabout way, I sort of repeated exactly what the previous poster just posted.

 
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I like to look at a very large amount of gay or homosexual pornographic video's. I know I have a girlfriend who I have had sex with and that I am seeing on and off for the past few months but, the thing is, I like to fantasize and masturbate to gay pictures, and video's. Does that make me gay? I mean I haven't ever considered being around another man. It's against my way of life but I just sometimes watch things and fantasize quite a bit these days. I don't want to think of myself as homosexual, I'm more of a heterosexual than a homosexual. But I just don't know anymore. Any ideas guys?
Well I've meet very few gays but to my knowledge,the gays I've meet all preferred guys only and would never consider dating a women.

So I guess you could be considered a Bisexual which perfere men more then women,nothing wrong with it just be true to yourself

Tivo-Fantasy is not so different from what you actually do given the opportunity.In this world where the norm is for male and female to live together.Something had to exist in order for people to start liking the same gender even at the risk of being redicule.

I don't see how you think its not a big concern,he is confuse and is living with a girlfriend who probably wouldn't understand why he has these strange feelings...To simply is ignore is to not be free and true to yourself.

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I like to look at a very large amount of gay or homosexual pornographic video's. I know I have a girlfriend who I have had sex with and that I am seeing on and off for the past few months but, the thing is, I like to fantasize and masturbate to gay pictures, and video's. Does that make me gay? I mean I haven't ever considered being around another man. It's against my way of life but I just sometimes watch things and fantasize quite a bit these days. I don't want to think of myself as homosexual, I'm more of a heterosexual than a homosexual. But I just don't know anymore. Any ideas guys?
I think that is just sex period. Do you dream of walking hand and hand in the moonlight with another guy...I doubt it.
Do you think it would nice to cuddle and kiss another guy...I doubt it.
When you go to the mall do you see a lot of guys that spin your wheels..I doubt it. I think you are normal

 
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Depends on who you ask. If you ask a guy who has never looked at another guy sexually, he'd likely say you were definitely gay. If you asked a gay guy, he'd likely say no, or you'd be out doing it, instead of looking at pictures of it.
Sexuality is a continuum. You are like most of us. There is some flexibility in your sexuality.
I am straight. I have been married for decades. I look at gay porn sometimes. I don't want to have sex with another man, or another woman, for that matter.
The mind is a complex thing. Good luck in sorting out who you are, and what you feel.

 
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I think that is just sex period. Do you dream of walking hand and hand in the moonlight with another guy...I doubt it.
Do you think it would nice to cuddle and kiss another guy...I doubt it.
When you go to the mall do you see a lot of guys that spin your wheels..I doubt it. I think you are normal
Funny how you doubt all this YET in the moment of pleasure he is thinking of screwing a guy I also doubt that he does it to girls anyways,holding hands and cuddle is just not my cup of tea

There is nothing wrong with being gay.

-Jason out of curiosity,how often do you think of guys rather then just during masterbation.I also think that rather then looking at yourself as being gay,you might consider bisexual which in term is much better.

btw-Some post have been pretty ignorant,not all gay guys come clean....Not all gays have the courage to go screw guys and by the sound of it jason is pretty pressured by the "norm" society.

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Old 05-31-2007, 12:45 PM   #10
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I like to look at a very large amount of gay or homosexual pornographic video's. I know I have a girlfriend who I have had sex with and that I am seeing on and off for the past few months but, the thing is, I like to fantasize and masturbate to gay pictures, and video's. Does that make me gay? I mean I haven't ever considered being around another man. It's against my way of life but I just sometimes watch things and fantasize quite a bit these days. I don't want to think of myself as homosexual, I'm more of a heterosexual than a homosexual. But I just don't know anymore. Any ideas guys?
Maybe I'd better explain before happy get too happy.
Have you ever fell in love with another guy? Take sex out of the picture, now do you still think about guys. The mind is complex, sex is simple. For me love and sex go together with a woman. Any thoughts of sex with a guy are just sex. Men are horny animals and given the right circumstances they will do almost anything......especially something forbidden.

 
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Wow, boydawg. You summed up a lot of human nature, with just a few words.

 
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It can definitely be either way... you may just be curious... just looking at new things that you wouldn't normally do. It depends if you would be wanting to actually do this with another man. If you do, then maybe you are bi, but you can also just be curious. Some people get turned on by things that are somewhat considered "off limits" or something different. You don't have to be gay if you are just being curious.

 
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It can definitely be either way... you may just be curious... just looking at new things that you wouldn't normally do. It depends if you would be wanting to actually do this with another man. If you do, then maybe you are bi, but you can also just be curious. Some people get turned on by things that are somewhat considered "off limits" or something different. You don't have to be gay if you are just being curious.
Well said....
Do not confuse love and sex.
To have sex with someone you love is called making love. I feel sorry for anyone who has never experenced this, you are missing one of God's greatest gift to mankind.
For a hetrosexual person that means a man and woman. For a homosexual person that means same sex.
To be curious or fantise about things that are forbidden or off limits is very erotic sometimes. It does not mean you are gay or not gay. It means nothing.

 
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happy05, you say "I'm 100 percent sure that most men don't think about men anything other then a friend,in a matter of fact most seem to dislike anything to do with gays.". My experience is just the opposite. A lot of guys like to joke about sex with another guy, because it is so taboo, and because they have thought about it, and stuff it back down inside. My buddy and I have both been very happily married to our wives for 30+ years. He jokes about sex with my wife, he jokes about sex with me, and when he looks at porn, it is often she-males. He's straight arrow. I think his wife may be his first and only.
I know mine is. A lot of men, if given the chance, and they believe they can get away with it, would love to play around with another guy. It's the most obvious deep dark secret many men have. Most men are adaptable. I think that what Boydawg has to say is a lot closer to reality.

 
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happy05, you say "I'm 100 percent sure that most men don't think about men anything other then a friend,in a matter of fact most seem to dislike anything to do with gays.". My experience is just the opposite. A lot of guys like to joke about sex with another guy, because it is so taboo, and because they have thought about it, and stuff it back down inside. My buddy and I have both been very happily married to our wives for 30+ years. He jokes about sex with my wife, he jokes about sex with me, and when he looks at porn, it is often she-males. He's straight arrow. I think his wife may be his first and only.
I know mine is. A lot of men, if given the chance, and they believe they can get away with it, would love to play around with another guy. It's the most obvious deep dark secret many men have. Most men are adaptable. I think that what Boydawg has to say is a lot closer to reality.
Although I can see where your coming from,she male?I think thats a bit different then thinking about pure male,he obviously enjoys male more then female...Even if your like to "joke" thats a whole other situation.Do you masterbate to male only?Do you only think about male each time you masterbate?Now the one who started the topic isn't responding so we can only assume he obviously has more feelings for male then female otherwise there wouldn't be such a topic of confusion.

Sure people joke but there is a HUGE difference between just curious and thinking about it every time you masterbate.Once again I seriously think people need to stop using themselves as a representative for the whole male population because thats just disgusting.

Of course we can argue all day and wouldn't come to a agreement so in the end I conclude that I would never do such a thing and that you are curious and if given chance would love to,everyone is different

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