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Old 11-09-2007, 09:23 PM  
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My wife cant orgasm during sex? Please help

Hi my wife an I been togther together for 9 years now have 2 young kids, but she cannot climax and no orgasm no matter would I do for her. The doctor had told her that she has a flat pelvous and also that hers is a tilited uterous as well. Please any advice or medical solutions i want her to experiece the satisfaction. thanks you.

 
Old 11-09-2007, 09:59 PM  
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Re: My wife cant orgasm during sex? Please help

That is a question your wife should be asking. Perhaps having an orgasm is not something she cares about one way or the other. Neither of those things you mention have anything to do with orgasms. There are many reasons or perhaps she just prefers to do it by herself?

 
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Re: My wife cant orgasm during sex? Please help

Most women don't reach orgasm from intercourse alone, so there is nothing wrong with her there. Can she reach orgasm on her own?

 
Old 11-10-2007, 05:39 PM  
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Re: My wife cant orgasm during sex? Please help

have you tried using a vibrator on your wife?

 
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Re: My wife cant orgasm during sex? Please help

I'm sure you all have already tried this, but many women have a better chance of having an orgasm while she's on top. That way the clitoris gets stimulated as well. Many women just can't orgasm without clitoral stimulation. Other than those things, it may just not work for her well! You can always try performing oral sex on her until she is very close, THEN have sex and that might work. As jete23 said, you can always try a toy as well. There are ones meant to use during sex that might work for her.

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Old 12-01-2007, 04:13 AM  
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Re: My wife cant orgasm during sex? Please help

I can get my wife to climax the 3 ways but I find that if you both put too much pressure on the climax rather that sex itself it will become harder for her to climax.
So just relax and as it has been said foreplay with your tongue will work a treat. Even if you get her off this way then continue it will be good. This is what I do and we get a double climax.
But not too much attention to the cltouris as it becomes a little tender after too much touching.
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Old 12-01-2007, 09:17 AM  
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Re: My wife cant orgasm during sex? Please help

My ex-wife used to be the same way and for a long time I couldn't understand it until I realized that women's and men's bodies just aren't the same. I thought for years she was just frigid and incapable of an orgasm. As stated earlier many women don't acheive orgasm from regular penetration, it is direct and concentrated stimulation to her clitoris. If regular penetration and stimulation doesn't do it, use your tongue man, straight to the clitoris. Be very light and careful and I think you'll have her pleased in no time.

Best of luck, because she needs a good orgasm as bad as you do.


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Re: My wife cant orgasm during sex? Please help

I find that for me the combination of clitoral and vaginal stimulation works best for me. Just one or the other makes it much more difficult for me and I've only done that maybe a handful of times. I was actually reading in Cosmo an article about "combination orgasms" which are where the g-spot and clitoris are stimulated to create a powerful orgasm. I think this is actually a very good idea and works great. It's something you just have to experiment with. Some ladies require some clitoral stimulation during sex... some even combine toys with sex for it to work for them.

 
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Re: My wife cant orgasm during sex? Please help

I would suggest a sex therapist. They can be quite helpful. Also I just read somewhere (I think it was on [deleted]) that only 1/3 of women orgasm everytime during sex.

Buy some books and be patient. Can she do it alone?
If she can have her show you what she does. That and long sessions of oral sex can help as well.

She may need to teach herself how to. Some women are uptight and nervous about thier bodies and it takes self acceptance and lots of alone practice as well as practice with you to get more comfortable and to learn how to get there.

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Re: My wife cant orgasm during sex? Please help

Here is an idea for you, a position to try. My wife also has a difficult time reaching orgasm when I penetrate. She has no problems with oral sex or other manual forms of stimulation when the clitoris is directly involved. We recently discovered how easy it is for her to orgasm with her on top of me in a reverse position. What a pleasant surprise this was as we have been married for over 15 year and had never figured this one out. Remember to get her warmed up with plenty of foreplay so her knees or legs don't get cramped from taking so long in this position. Every time we have tried it an orgasm for her has been the result (of course it also works for me, but that has never been a problem for us). That is a pretty good batting average. Wish I could say the same for all of the other positions we have tried.

Give it a try and have fun. Definitely do not put pressure on her to succeed on the first try. Have fun practicing and trying to figure it out. I agree that as a man I feel some sense of pride when I am able to pleasure my partner to orgasm during intercourse. Good luck.

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Old 12-10-2007, 10:50 AM  
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Re: My wife cant orgasm during sex? Please help

On the average, only 3 out of 10 women are able to acheive through conventional means. I am not one of them. I have a tilted uterus as well but my bf is very creative and giving and we have found ways to get me there!!

 
 

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