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Old 01-31-2008, 06:14 AM   #1
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Why does my husband masterbate in his sleep?

I am 35yrs old and for the last 6 month I have been awoken by my husband masturbating in his sleep this happens three times or more a week. I have to get him up to clean up the mess that is made. Can someone please tell me what going on so I can help stop this?

 
Old 01-31-2008, 08:56 AM   #2
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Re: Why does my husband masterbate in his sleep?

It sounds like, he just love to masturbate in bed. This is very annoying it seems to you.
I don't think that he's so asleep that he doesn't know what he is doing. Ask him to get up and go to the restroom, or show you the respect of doing this when you're not in the bed with him! This is a lack of respect for you on his part. If he doesnt stop, then I would seek marriage couseling for proffessional advise on what should be done.

 
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Old 01-31-2008, 09:07 AM   #3
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Re: Why does my husband masterbate in his sleep?

I dont know why he is doing this, but I am a 25/f and I have done it...and I WAS asleep. I woke myself up having an orgasm...I couldnt believe it...thank GOODNESS I was alone because that would have been embarassing.

He is obviously aware of it, maybe he is just hornier lately and if you two take care of it before he goes to sleep that could help.

Good luck!

 
Old 01-31-2008, 09:10 AM   #4
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Re: Why does my husband masterbate in his sleep?

1) why do you have to clean the mess he is made?
2) search the internet- there are loads of info available on the science behind what people do during their sleep
3) i suggest you also post this in the sexual health board- I think you'll find people on there who may be able to help you more

 
Old 01-31-2008, 10:17 AM   #5
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Re: Why does my husband masterbate in his sleep?

Easy solutions…..smack him upside his head! Are you crazy?? If my man did this, I would be horrified and appalled. I know that I have never done this before in my sleep and I can’t believe that anyone could honestly be asleep and masturbate!
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Re: Why does my husband masterbate in his sleep?

Come on people ease up on the guy. You would be surprised at the number of things people do in their sleep and are completely unaware of it. SLEEP WALKING for one!!! Yes a person can masturbate in their sleep and be unaware of it. There are also cases of people shock of shocks having sex while asleep or attempting to have sex with their SOs.
My oldest son I can have full on conversations with the kid while he is asleep. It is weird but he will sit up in bed eyes open even but he will still be asleep. It took me two different times to realize he was asleep and that he had no memory of the conversation. Though I swear I will use it to my advantage in his teens years...lol Teasing I wouldnt do that to him.
My husband has roaming hands in his sleep. The only reason I know is I have tried to talk to him when this has happened and had to wake him up to get him to stop. No he wasnt acting like he was asleep either cause he is a bear to wake up.
So it is very possible OP's Dh has no clue what is going on.
I suggest talking to him and see what stress he is under. I say that because masturbating is a great stress reliever. Also might want to see if he feels that you two arent having enough sex. You can also set up an appointment with his dr and you adn him go talk to his dr and get things checked out that way as well.
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Old 01-31-2008, 11:50 AM   #7
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Re: Why does my husband masterbate in his sleep?

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Easy solutions…..smack him upside his head! Are you crazy?? If my man did this, I would be horrified and appalled. I know that I have never done this before in my sleep and I can’t believe that anyone could honestly be asleep and masturbate!
I guarantee you it does happen. Like I said I am a 25/f. I woke myself up during an orgasm and I was masterbating. Talk about a wake up call! HAHA!

I am glad it doesnt happen regularly though because that would be embarassing!

Like i said, maybe you two need to have sex more often, maybe it needs to be talked about. Maybe, wake him up when he starts to so that he doesnt make a mess...and once in a while maybe lend a hand It isnt crazy at all! I know people who get up out of bed and do crazy things in there sleep like pee in corners or try and leave the house. It happens.

 
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Re: Why does my husband masterbate in his sleep?

I've woke up masturbating in my sleep.

But you shouldn't have to clean up his mess, that's all him. Make him do it.

 
Old 01-31-2008, 03:08 PM   #9
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Re: Why does my husband masterbate in his sleep?

Some people just have a constant sex drive. That's not punishable. And obviously he's having a lot of sex dreams, which I envy, because I rarely have sex dreams You can't control what you dream.

I agree with the rest that you shouldn't be cleaning up after him, though. That's kind of on him. Does he not even realize that he's coming? That would be a freaky thing to wake up to LOL
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Re: Why does my husband masterbate in his sleep?

Ummmmm...isn't this like a wet dream? I have had sexual dreams where I had an orgasm and then woke up. Haven't had one in a long time, but I would compare it to the same thing happening to your husband. I think you need to go soft on this one, I don't think he knows he is doing it.

 
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Re: Why does my husband masterbate in his sleep?

Waking up to an orgasm sounds like a perfect way to wake up, it's never ever happened to me before but i have woke up feeling very horny. It's only happened about twice though.

How long have you been married? I'd be intrigued to know why it's only happened in the past 6 months if it hasn't happened before.

My OH wake up with a hard on every single morning, I read somewhere that testosterone level rises in your sleep so that probably explains it. Even when he naps for a couple of hours he'd wake up with a hard on.

 
Old 01-31-2008, 05:51 PM   #12
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Re: Why does my husband masterbate in his sleep?

Thanks for the info just to be clear I wake him up to clean himself I don't want it on my sheets LOL

 
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Re: Why does my husband masterbate in his sleep?

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I just want to say that him masterbating in his sleep is a bit better than him doing it to one of these nude models on porn sites or in a strip club......Did you even speak to him about it? It would be interesting to know how he reacts to that!
yes we spoke about it he shy away I can see it bothers him. He try to sleep on his back so he won't rub the sheets. At time he will try hiding it but I know it stills happen. I do do the wash.

 
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Re: Why does my husband masterbate in his sleep?

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Come on people ease up on the guy. You would be surprised at the number of things people do in their sleep and are completely unaware of it. SLEEP WALKING for one!!! Yes a person can masturbate in their sleep and be unaware of it. There are also cases of people shock of shocks having sex while asleep or attempting to have sex with their SOs.
My oldest son I can have full on conversations with the kid while he is asleep. It is weird but he will sit up in bed eyes open even but he will still be asleep. It took me two different times to realize he was asleep and that he had no memory of the conversation. Though I swear I will use it to my advantage in his teens years...lol Teasing I wouldnt do that to him.
My husband has roaming hands in his sleep. The only reason I know is I have tried to talk to him when this has happened and had to wake him up to get him to stop. No he wasnt acting like he was asleep either cause he is a bear to wake up.
So it is very possible OP's Dh has no clue what is going on.
I suggest talking to him and see what stress he is under. I say that because masturbating is a great stress reliever. Also might want to see if he feels that you two arent having enough sex. You can also set up an appointment with his dr and you adn him go talk to his dr and get things checked out that way as well.
I guess he could be under stress he works 12 hr days deals with the worst type of people he got 1yr to go befor retirerment from the City. As for sex he could have a rough night and still have sex with me.As for a dr don't think he will go there.

 
Old 08-14-2008, 02:00 PM   #15
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Re: husband masturbating ?

Sounds a little messy, but I don't understand what the problem is? I don't think it is unheard of for men to masturbate in their sleep. Or is the problem that he is waking you up by doing this?
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