Me andmy wife tried many times to have sex however it seems that hymen is not brokenand so it is not going in. I can feel a small hole but then not able to insert. it given terrible amount of pain to her.
Try engaging in a lot of foreplay to get her more relaxed, if she is nervous, her muscles can tighten and make it hard for you to enter her. Also, make sure that you are sufficiently erect and that you use a lot of lube. Go slowly, it does hurt for a woman during her first time, but remind her that once you get past the pain the pleasure sets in and its all good. Good luck!
Some hymens need to be surgically broken. I have a niece who had the same problem.
The surgery was a minor snip/snapping of the hymen, and her problem was finally solved:> If all else fails, talk to your doctor..
This true... it's rare, but sometimes a surgical procedure is needed.
Before I ever had sex, I did not want my first time to be painful so I made sure my hymen was broken beforehand and it really helped out. I would suggest NOT going straight for sex and instead use your finger or something small... I find that making it a GRADUAL process will prevent it from hurting so much. Also, a small sex toy may help her get used to it before having sex.
I hope this doesn't offend you, because that is not my intention, but it's not uncommon for young couples to be a little confused about how to have sex. The female body is a little complicated, so if you are not familiar with it from sex education or pornography, you should look up a diagram and make sure that you are inserting your erect penis into the right place.
If that is not your problem, I agree with the other responders that you should see a doctor. As they said, some women have a hymen that is unusually thick. The doctor can surgically cut it to allow sex.