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Old 11-21-2008, 11:55 PM   #1
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Why do guys masturbate?

I would like to know why do guys masterbate? I have read the other post from others that have asked the same question. I'm trying to get over it. I have been dating my boyfriend for 14 months now, I just found out in the past month that he has be masterbating alot. I thought that it was because of me. But now i understand that its not because of me. I just want to know why does he do it when I'm willing to have sex with him whenever he wants it. Is it normal for a women to get grossed out by this and feel like they arent pleasing their guy? Thats how i feel. I'm talking to a counselor about this but i still dont feel comfrontable with it. Is there anything I could do to get over this feeling? I hope that u can help me. thanks!

 
Old 11-22-2008, 06:20 AM   #2
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Re: Why do guys masterbate?

Personally, I find the thought of my husband masturbating a bit of a turn-on. I have learned that it's nothing to do with me or our sex life. It's just another expression of his sexuality. And I like to watch.

Have you ever thought that maybe he's trying to spare you? Maybe he feels that his sex drive is 'too much' for one woman to accommodate? Or, maybe, as some men have shared here, it's a way to enhance his longevity in bed with you.

 
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Old 11-22-2008, 09:35 AM   #3
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Re: Why do guys masterbate?

Simply put, guys masturbate for the same reason women do: sexual release. But as to why a guy would choose to masturbate instead of making love with his partner, that's something else. There could be a hundred reasons for it and you're only going to find out your bf's reason by asking him. Some of the possibilities are that he: has a higher drive that you, thinks you wouldn't be interested so often, is being selfish, is addicted to porn, is losing interest in you, sees it a just a habit, is lazy... etc.

Some reasons are completely harmless and aren't any indication that there's anything wrong with the relationship, others indicate a problem. Either way, you have to find out exactly why he is excluding you from that part of him. Make sure he knows that you're feeling excluded, but also keep in mind that if he did take you up on your "I'm willing to have sex with him whenever he wants it" offer and starts to expect you to have sex with him at the drop of a had simply because he wants it, you could end up feeling used and like you're just there to service him. (I say when a guy is only interested in taking care of himself, let him, lol.) Basically, if he'd doing it so much that you're are not getting enough of it with him, you two have to talk about it (btw, being able to watch isn't being excluded, you would still be part of it so that really isn't a comparison - unless he doesn't know you're watching, of course, lol, but you get my meaning, I hope).

I hope things work out.

 
Old 11-23-2008, 05:58 PM   #4
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Re: Why do guys masterbate?

I can certainly tell you why I do it. It is a sexual release and I need it because my wife has no interest in sex right now. She has been taking Zoloft, an anti-depressant which has a sex suppressant side effect. I have posted elsewhere about this and got some really good responses. For now I have to deal with satisfying myself that way. She does not participate or watch. I also posted about having an affair because of our lack of sex. Masturbation is a safer and cheaper alternative than the affair. Hope yours gets worked out and I still have hope for mine as well.

 
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Re: Why do guys masterbate?

A mans penis has been his best friend since he descovered that it has a mind of it's on.
We have a love hate relationship with it at times, but we wouldn't trade it for all the women in the world. When women are upset with us, don't have time, ill or just tired of us, we still have our best friend to comfort us. We will always give our best friend personal, one on one time, so please don't get annoid or jealous, it's just the way things are.

 
Old 11-28-2008, 08:39 AM   #6
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Re: Why do guys masturbate?

I don't think it matters at all. Like someone said earlier, it's just another way of expressing sexuality, and it really is a turn on to me!
My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now, and have sex atleast 2 or 3 times a week. But we still both masturbate, and we both find it a huge turn on.
We are just a very sexual couple, and when we are on our own then that's just another way to feel sexual.
I'm really sure it's nothing to do with you- it's just some people are very sexual and like to experience all aspects of it. Masturbation is a very personal, different, calming thing that sometimes people don't just do to get off, but just because it's habit or they enjoy it.

No worries- you don't need to worry about it.
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Old 11-29-2008, 10:39 AM   #7
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Re: Why do guys masturbate?

I do have a question- you may be able to help me. When your husband masterbates did you ever run into a time where he will have a hard time with erection when it comes time to you and him wanting to have sex?---playfulmind

 
Old 12-10-2008, 12:29 PM   #8
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Re: Why do guys masturbate?

Hum maybe it has something to do with the fact that masterbation grosses her out? Maybe he cannot understand why that bothers her? I know it would be an issue with me, if that grosses her out there might be a lot of things he would like to try but she thinks its gross.

 
Old 12-20-2008, 07:00 PM   #9
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Re: Why do guys masturbate?

Normally guys do it to supplement their sexual needs as they may not be fulfilled with their woman. There is something he accomplishes by doing it; either he has some fanatsies or needs he is embarrased or ashamed of asking you to fill.

Try masturbating in front of him and see what happens. Does he ask for sexual acts from you that you do not want to do? Maybe try to up the sex frequency. Maybe get an adult movie and watch it with him and see what turns him on. Take him to an adult store and shop for toys and other things. Juice up your sex life a bit and see what happens.

 
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