GirlFriend has low Sex drive and always tired. - Sexual Health - General Message Board

Mananger · 01-07-2009, 11:09 PM

Hello there,

My girlfriend suffers from depression, she is on a drug called "lamikten" (something to that affect), She is always complaining she is tired and has no drive to do anything let alone getting intimate. I would like to know if there is anyone that could help me understand what she is going threw so i know how to better handle the situation.

Thanks for the future replies.

Mananger · 01-08-2009, 12:55 AM

I am 26 years old and my Girlfriend is 23, We both have a healthy life style, and weather it is relevant or not we are equally attractive, So as far as that is concerned i don't see a problem. We are intimate about once every 2 weeks. But we are both young and still very in love, am i just being to needy or .... ?
Please can someone give me some input.

Thanks.

krissy11_58 · 01-08-2009, 03:22 AM

If you're serious about the relationship, just roll with it. If you start pressuring her, she will run the other way! I've been through anxiety and depression before - if you are intimate every fortnight, I'd say that's okay! If you continue to support her, she will realise how special you are, especially once her mental health improves and she can gain better perspective of her life.

Mananger · 01-08-2009, 04:32 AM

I am serious about her and will do anything for her, So i will be patient and just help her threw it as best as i can. I just want to better understand what she is going threw so i can better deal with the situation. Thanks for the reply, much appreciated.

roseratlarge · 01-08-2009, 05:01 AM

I don't agree with the statement that if you're intimate "every fortnight," then that's OK. It obviously is not OK with you or you would not be here. You (and your girlfriend) are very young to be dealing with lack of desire already.

Whether the issue stems from lamictal or not, you and your girlfriend need to have a discussion about the issue. If she loves you, I would think that she would be open to a thoughtful, serious discussion. Sometimes in a relationship, one partner needs to put forth a little more effort in the bedroom in order to be fair to the other partner. Your GF can also talk to her prescribing MD about the side effects that she's suffering. Extreme tiredness plus the lack of desire may be issues that can be helped with a dosage adjustment.

Good luck.