Sex without a condom - Sexual Health - General Message Board

waterworks · 01-16-2009, 11:36 AM

My girlfriend and I had sex without a condom for the first time a few days ago. It was really special and new for the both of us. We've been sexually active for around 2 years and she's been on the pill for a little over a month. We agreed that she would go through one pack before we would do it without the condom. She was still really scared so we went slowly and she cried a few times but she really enjoyed it and so did I. I didn't finish inside of her either. I'd just like some opinions on what I could tell her to reassure her. She's safe on the pill is she not? I didn't know girls stopped taking the pill while on their periods but is it still safe right after the period?

Magnetic · 01-16-2009, 08:26 PM

The pill is not 100% effective. If taken properly, though, the odds of pregnancy are low. You are still rolling the dice a bit, so be sure you are ready to accept the consequences of unprotected sex.

Kszan · 01-16-2009, 09:19 PM

When taken correctly (meaning not late and not missing any), the pill is 99% effective against pregnancy. That means you're not having unprotected sex if she's on the pill and taking it correctly.

Many women stop using condoms once they get on the pill because that's the whole point of why it was invented. It's the reason why many women opt for the pill because they don't want to use condoms.

Just to clarify also, the placebo week when a woman gets her period, she is still protected, provided she has taken all of the active pills in her pack. This question seems to come up a lot here and I'm not sure why the confusion. If she's on the pill, she is covered, the placebo week doesn't mean she's not protected during that week. The pill was designed to imitate a woman's cycle, which is why she takes the week off for a period.

waterworks · 01-18-2009, 12:31 AM

I don't finish inside her but we have talked about it. She is really scared at the idea of me going inside her so we might just not do it.

zanna06 · 01-18-2009, 05:38 PM

if it were me, i wouldnt get off inside her. Ive been on the pill for about 5 years and i do the same thing you just described. Yes, sex without a condom is fine (as long as you know the other person is clean) just as long as you dont get off in here. thats wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy too risky. If you two choose to do that, be prepared. Theres too much at stake if you arent ready to have kids.