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Old 07-27-2009, 08:10 AM   #1
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My boyfriend told me last night he has had sex with transsexuals

My boyfriend of three months told me last night he has had 3 or 4 encounters with transsexuals and I am totally freaked out.

He has a strong fetish for anal sex which we both enjoy together but I am now totally confused about his sexuality. I asked if he was bisexual and he said yes but then said he was basically straight. He said his desire for anal sex was so strong that he went with a transsexual because he knew that was a sure way of getting it. I hasten to add that he said that he is totally faithful and has no interest in being with anyone else, regardless of gender, and is totally turned on by me.

On one hand I'm pleased he has told me and I think honesty is crucial but this really freaks me out. Is he fantasising about having sex with transsexuals when we have sex? I'm sure only he can answer this but it is pretty terrifying.

Does it mean he is gay? He said the transsexuals he slept with were like really beautiful women with penises but are transsexual encounters on the road to him realising he is actually gay? I don't want to seem narrow minded but I don't know any bisexuals so really have nothing to compare this to.

His fetish for anal sex is very strong - could this be an extension of it? Most of his porn revolves around anal. Can a fetish lead you to seek gratification in any way possible? He seems pretty confused about his sexuality having said yes he is bisexual but then that he is 'basically' straight.

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Old 07-28-2009, 03:15 PM   #2
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Re: My boyfriend told me last night he has had sex with transsexuals

The hand writing on the wall it is very plain. If you want a straight guy, run the other way because your boyfriend is not straight and most likely never will be.

Do you wish to share your boyfriend or husband with others, especially in this type lifestyle?

Do you like gambling with your life regarding aids or other?

 
Old 07-28-2009, 04:17 PM   #3
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Re: My boyfriend told me last night he has had sex with transsexuals

Are you just freaked out because he had sex with 4 transsexuals or are your freaked out that he might cheap on you in general because of his anal fetishes? If he were to admit that he had anal sex with 4 women would it not bother you as much as the transsexual part?

If he is this obsessed with anal sex, your least worry should be transsexuals but your ability to satisfy his obsession. If he won't be happy with the sex life between you, he will cheat on you and it won't matter if he is straight, bisexual or whatever. All I know is that your boyfriend needs mental counseling because his obsession is driving him to desperate ends like going for trannies.

 
Old 07-31-2009, 06:35 PM   #4
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Re: My boyfriend told me last night he has had sex with transsexuals

Basically straight, but he felt compelled to sleep with 4 people?
I don't know about you, but I couldn't trust him. Sleeping with him without protection is like a death sentence. He is kidding himself.
His preoccupation with anal is separate from his bisexuality.
I say these things as a monogamous, happily married bisexual.
Where he is coming from with the trannies, I have no idea. If he is so anal obsessed, then his story of getting oral from the tranny seems suspect. Trannies are not women with dicks.
It would be prudent to never have unsafe sex with him again. He will tell you anything, and do as he pleases, then rationalize later. I see this as extremely dangerous.
If you can't trust him now, what, short of a miracle change of heart, would change him into someone you could trust?

 
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Re: My boyfriend told me last night he has had sex with transsexuals

My advice is get away from him, get yourself tested, and go find a man that is interested in what YOU have to offer. You cannot compete with his fetishes.

 
Old 08-30-2009, 02:55 AM   #6
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wow. my ex bf and i always argued about cheating. i never did and he said neither did he.. but when we would break up (which was often) he would run to the nearest swingers club. (i found receipts from the visits and emails to verify his whearabouts while we were broken up) one time we were in vegas and we saw a tranny@ the fremont experience and he couldnt take his eyes off her.. i was very offended. later i found emails from trannies that he banged while he was on the road.. pictures and everiything. i was numb when i saw all this, but **** hit the fan when he called me a guys name in bed. the moral of the story is that it can only get worse... and worse.. my ex is a very attractive italian/portuguese man and im a beautiful mex italian/french woman. we were a sexy *** lookin couple and could never tell that he liked trannies.. we talked about this "tranny" situation a couple of times and he got offended and claimed to never had slept w them( despite the pictures that he eventually deleted to prove it never happend) he claimed to be straight but admitted to having sex with other swingers couples. i dont know if that meant that he slept with the guys but i know he was a creative curious s&m kinda guy so i doubt that he would of stopped another guy from giving him head when there is ***** on the bed next to him.. i know its hard to trust/believe what he says about things but its ok to be confused as hell.. trust can be rebuilt and communication can always improve.. i say if u been w him a while and truly think u could forget about this.. then give it a shot..

on the other hand if ur like me and onlly knew the guy like a year then i would run like the wind.. buena suerte! (good luck)

 
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Re: My boyfriend told me last night he has had sex with transsexuals

A chicks with sticks ... best of both worlds .... as they say kind of story.

.... unfortunately

a one post wonder as well.

HOOP! ( only the nose knows!!)

 
Old 09-11-2009, 01:00 PM   #8
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Re: My boyfriend told me last night he has had sex with transsexuals

Run, run fast and far!

 
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Re: My boyfriend told me last night he has had sex with transsexuals

Firstly i dont understand why he came out and told you of what he's done in the past? Maybe he's confused himself and feels the need to discuss it or having said it out aloud makes it ok in his mind??? who know!!

On the other hand, maybe he is addicted to anal and by doing it with transvestites makes it 'ok' in his mind as it's as though he's "doing it with a girl".

Who knows what the real issue is here. We can only guess. It's up to you what you end up doing, but i'd be worried about STD's, especially if he can't break his habit. Good luck!!

 
Old 09-25-2009, 10:56 AM   #10
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Re: My boyfriend told me last night he has had sex with transsexuals

I see his confession as both a means to threaten and control as well as and attempt to alleviate his guilt. He's basiccly telling you that if you don't put out the kind of sex he wants, he's bloodly well likely to cheat on you again with members on the fringe of society because he knows they will allow it. And, because he knows it's wrong he's telling you hoping you can offer him forgiveness and acceptance of his alternative lifestyle when he's weak and unable to control his urges and desires in the future. It's entirely up to you how you move forward, but it has to be a punch in the gutt everytime you are imtimate with him knowing he's been in the bowels of other men and possibly taking a penis up the dirt road on occasion too.

 
Old 09-27-2009, 11:06 AM   #11
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Re: My boyfriend told me last night he has had sex with transsexuals

Sounds like homosesual sex to me.

I am a male with big boobs & only like women for sex.

 
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