Foreplay??? - Sexual Health - General Message Board

JennaBK25 · 10-24-2009, 08:34 PM

Okay, how do I get my man into foreplay?? I always try to get it started that way but he just wants to get right to the deed! It's like he's worried it's not going to happen or something. I asked him about it and he just said he doesn't have the patients for it. But yet like any guy loves getting a blow job, I just don't get play in return, it goes right to sex, which isn't bad by any means, it just really takes me awhile to get into it because I have a really hard time getting an orgasm...any suggestions? Male and female options would be very much appreciated!!

point08 · 10-24-2009, 09:32 PM

If he doesn't have the patience for it then there is not much you can do about it. He is not likely to change.

Misty800 · 10-25-2009, 12:13 PM

Your man is being selfish. He should be interested in you as much as he is in himself.

He will have more pleasure if his wife is aroused fully.

If it is a boyfriend, this should send up red flags to you. What goes on in the bedroom could be the way he is or will be regarding other things, selfish. Something to think about.

pretzel146 · 10-26-2009, 06:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Misty800

Your man is being selfish. He should be interested in you as much as he is in himself.

He will have more pleasure if his wife is aroused fully.

If it is a boyfriend, this should send up red flags to you. What goes on in the bedroom could be the way he is or will be regarding other things, selfish. Something to think about.

Couldn't agree more here.

Guys either terribly insecure or terribly selfish.

For me, I'd rather spend an hour making my wife feel good and enjoying herself. But that's just me.

I've always looked at this way, "You only get back what you put in". If he's not willing to put effort into lovemaking then is it worth it?

Kszan · 10-26-2009, 07:01 AM

If he isn't going to take the time to make sure you feel good before him then he's absolutely not worth your time. You know you have a keeper when he spends all of his time making sure you're taken care of first. But you know you have a dud and a loser if he doesn't care at all about your pleasure and just cares about his own (like this so-called man of yours). Sorry, that's not a man, that's a little boy who never learned about sex. I'll bet he's probably not even that good, he probably knows it and that's why he doesn't want you to find out.