My boyfriend and I have been discussing trying anal sex. He's done it a few times before with a previous girlfriend. I've tried it before, but never "responsibly" as in we planned it, used lube, etc. We just "tried" it and never really succeeded. Anyway, now that my boyfriend and I are seriously considering it, I'd like to get some opinions. We are already aware of a good kind of lube to use, and he knows "how" to do it so it's comfortable. We have great communication, so I'm not worried about that. The things I'm worried about are the more technical things like, does it mess up your bowels? [deleted] Thanks!
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While I admit I have never been on the receiving end of it, that is not everone's experience.
Those who are careful about it, and take the necessary steps, such as adequate lubrication and foreplay, don't have a problem with it. If this were the experience of most people, the act would have died out early in human history.
I know someone who was careful and used the proper lube and only had anal sex with her husband. She was told by a proctologist she had the worst rectum he has ever seen and to stop having anal sex right away.This person also had hemorrhoids and occasionally pooped herself.
Porn makes it look like everyone does it,when in fact,it really isn't good for you at all and most people don't do it.
We'll just have to agree to disagree.
***edited to add that I don't believe this will happen if it's only done occasionally.But one must certainly consider the long term effects of doing this on a regular basis.
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I'm responding to this because I have experience with both anal sex and anal tears (anal fissure.)
I always enjoyed a nice healthy anal sex life up until I had a baby. I loved anal sex and nothing ever went wrong down there due to anal sex. Then I got pregnant and sometime during labor I developed a fissure (an anal tear.) I have been dealing with it on and off for 10 years now. After that no more anal sex for me.
So in my experience anal sex wasn't bad for my rectum but pregnancy and labor was very bad for my rectum. Both my husband and I miss having anal sex but there is nothing that can be done about that now.
I'm responding to this because I have experience with both anal sex and anal tears (anal fissure.)
I always enjoyed a nice healthy anal sex life up until I had a baby. I loved anal sex and nothing ever went wrong down there due to anal sex. Then I got pregnant and sometime during labor I developed a fissure (an anal tear.) I have been dealing with it on and off for 10 years now. After that no more anal sex for me.
So in my experience anal sex wasn't bad for my rectum but pregnancy and labor was very bad for my rectum. Both my husband and I miss having anal sex but there is nothing that can be done about that now.
Many OB and GI providers are theorizing that repeated anal penetration and sex can lead to excessive obstrical related perineal and anal trauma during labor and delivery. People are generally secretive and not likely to honestly disclose what activities they are participating in so there isn't enough to really go on yet but as anal sex becomes more prevalent in the heterosexual population, I'm sure that Dr's and clinicians will have all the data they need. When the body is misused and exploited against it's natural design, it can lead to problems for some people.
The original poster really needs to be aware that there are possible negative consequences to anal sex. Some people do it their entire adult lives and have no ill side effects while others end up with chronic problems that will impact their health and the quality of their lives. Just look how the incidence anal and rectal cancer has increased over the last 20 yrs, especially in females under 50. IBS/IDB has also increased at an alarming rate, especially in the 13-30 aged female. While no one really knows why yet, but it makes me wonder.
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Use a water based lube and go slowly. For many women the sensation is not pleasant though also not really painful though some do find it quite pleasurable.
What does work for many women is to masturbate during anal sex. The chemicals released turn the unpleasant sensation into a VERY pleasurable sensation. Other stimulation methods may work for you like vibrators for clitoral stimulation or dildos for that dual penetration feeling. The important part being that you are receiving other sources of pleasure.
Then again, you might be lucky and completely enjoy the act all by itself.
You cannot get cancer from anal sex, no more than you can get mouth cancer from oral sex. Ask any proctologist.
The act itself does not create the cancer, but it spreads the cause of the cancer: HPV. And HPV is spread through anal, vaginal and oral sex. The link between HPV and cervical, anal and oral cancers is clear. Ask any oncologist.
It is strickly up, to you, but yes it could cause major rectal and bowel problems, such as proctitis, fissures, and it unaturally opens and causes future cronic diarhea, etc................Medically knowing the risks, I would never try it, on my wife..., also if he is not circumsized it could cause him serious infections, in the foreskin and possibly spread the bacteria causing vaginal infections, and so on...............please research and way the risks, before further tries, and talk about your concerns too your partner... sincerly, Bloodstone
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I have my foreskin, and my urologist told me that my risks of contracting a serious infection from anal sex in a monogamous relationship where neither are IV drug users are approaching zero.
