daffy, whatever is going on you will not be able to figure this out alone, or with another's opinions. As beautiful as your husband thinks that you are, the problem still exists. For me, what he is doing is totally unacceptable in what should be a very loving marriage. And that includes intimacy.
I would ask my husband for that heart to heart talk because what does not get talked about will get acted out. Can I suggest Couple's therapy?
I DO wish you the best. Your husband gawking at other women is very insulting to you and I am sure that your feelings are very, very hurt
He owes you a detailed explanation, plain and simple.
I wish you the best hun.