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Old 05-18-2001, 04:58 AM   #1
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After the threesome -sigh-

Okay, my bf has wanted a threesome for so long. I recently got a new roommate who is young and cute and I set up a "party". It was all good, we had lots of fun, but now he can't resist her. gah!

Is there any chance he can fight this? What is the best way to handle it now? I talked to both of them beforehand and they agreed it was not to be an everyday thing, just a new experience. She's fine, but he is totally ignited.

I really screwed up this time, didn't I?

 
Old 05-18-2001, 06:23 AM   #2
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Re: After the threesome -sigh-

Hi Kista,
Not much can be done. You may use counter-technique to ask him that you also want to have threesome with a guy. It is hard for men to share their women but it can back fire if he accepts it and you have guys (friends of him) every now and then. In any case you'll what he feels about you.
By the way you sound little kinky too!

 
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Old 05-18-2001, 07:56 AM   #3
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Poor Kista, Been there girl...... Someone always loses in a threesome. Really not as fun as it looks, after the new wears off. Hope your b/f comes back. Good luck

 
Old 05-20-2001, 01:36 PM   #4
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Re: After the threesome -sigh-

Now he wants to do it again (big surprise) and I'm thinking, "It was fun to try once, but that's all." hmmmm

 
Old 05-20-2001, 11:23 PM   #5
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has it ever occured to you that he just wants to sleep around with your permission?

 
Old 05-21-2001, 05:50 AM   #6
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Re: After the threesome -sigh-

I honesty feel, except in very few cases, once you cross the line of monogamy in the bedroom, there is no turning back. Such as your case, the boyfriend now thinks that you have given him permission to have sex with other women and sounds like he liked it enough that he may never want to go back to the 'old' way of just you and him. I know this isn't always the case, but I've seen it happen twice with my friends. I actually have a friend who is married to a man that his ex-wife asked her to be a part of their threesome about 12 years ago. Can you say 'BACKFIRE!'? Just be careful and good luck!

Sherri.

 
Old 05-22-2001, 12:16 AM   #7
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Re: After the threesome -sigh-

eweejoe-That is what I fear, and also what I am witnessing. So what do I do now? What was I thinking?

When he came over this weekend, I had told her that she can't be around when he is here. I feel bad for putting her out, but I don't know what else to do. I could just tell him to snap out of it, but I don't think he's in control and it's not fair to have her around here shaking her tail feathers in front of him.

What are my options now?

 
Old 05-22-2001, 07:22 AM   #8
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Kista, don't close the door of communication with either one of these people. You don't want them to see each other behind your back. Don't give them reason to. That would hurt more I think. Be honest with your b/f and let him know that this was just a one time deal. be honest with your friend and if she is a TRUE friend she will back off. Sounds like to me that your b/f was looking for an excuse to fool around and you fell in the trap. You may have to be the one that says goodbye. Like I said in earlier posting. Someone always gets left out in a threesome. smiles to you today <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif"> <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif"> <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">

 
Old 05-22-2001, 09:36 AM   #9
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If you lost him Kista..he was never meant to be yours hun, just chalk it up as a loss no matter how bad it hurts and use this as a life lesson...Hey at least you can say you had an experience like this right? LOL

 
Old 05-22-2001, 10:16 AM   #10
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call me crazy but thats what you get for letting your boyfriend sleep with other people. i am always amazed how girls are so suprised that their man wants someone else after begging to have a threesome and then the girl finally says "okay". DUH! this is not rocket science.

 
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Kista,

The way I see it you have two choices:

#1-you can tell him "Look, it was a one time thing, I am now having my regrets, and I do not wish for it to continue". If that is not OK with him, then give him the boot, he was never yours to begin with. He will only do this to you as long as you let him. If your putting your foot down and saying "I'm not doing it again and don't want you to either" means you lose him, you've lost very little.

#2-You can continue to do the threesome thing to make him happy and end up hating yourself in the long run-we all know that is NOT a good option.

First and foremost you need to tell him that you are over it and do not wish to do that anymore. If you let him know that you've changed your whole outlook on the whole idea since doing it, then maybe he'll wise up. If not, then he cares more about getting his rocks off than your feelings and he's not worth it. I am sensing that maybe you weren't as gung-ho about this whole thing as he was from the get-go and maybe now that you've seen that he's drooling for more action from your roomie, you're hurt. Seems like he's lost some of his respect for you and your feelings, but you opened up the door for him, so now you have to be wise enough to pull him back in or let him go. Good Luck to you.

Sherri.

 
Old 05-25-2001, 09:10 PM   #12
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averybaby, to tell you the truth, it was one of the hottest sexiest things I've ever experienced.

But you guys will never believe what happened!

I was talking to the bf and he kept making comments about her so I had an idea:

I asked him where his roommate was tonight. His roomie is really hot. After he answered my question, he goes, Why are you asking?" I could tell he was a little jealous. Then I said in a serious voice that I'd like to have a 3some with him and his roommate. Like it was no big deal. He mumbled something and tried to away from the subject. Then I go, "what if we did do that? Just once, just to have the experience. I said, "Then what if, every time I came over to your apartment, I focused my attention on him instead of you?"

"How would that make you feel? You don't have to answer now, but I want you to put yourself in my shoes and tell me if you would be able to deal with it." he didn't really say much about it at the time.

Yesterday he calls me. He said he thought about what I said. Honestly, I was afraid to hear his response. I thought he was going to say he wants to date other girls.
He said, "You're right. I wouldn't like it. I won't do that anymore."
&lt;blink&gt;
Wow, how cool is that?

 
Old 05-25-2001, 09:16 PM   #13
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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by pv:
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By the way you sound little kinky too!</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

adventurous, curious, thrill-seeking, sex-driven, fun-loving.

Hell yea! all of those things. Screw it. Who said this:
I want to go everywhere!
I want to do everything!
I want to f*** everyone in the world!
I want to do something...that matters!!!

Okay, I don't really want to do everyone in the world...just have someone who is also craving new experiences. but you get the idea.

 
Old 05-25-2001, 09:55 PM   #14
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A: Trent Reznor heh

 
Old 05-26-2001, 03:49 AM   #15
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Wow Kista
I must say you sound like the kind of girl I fantasize about. Another way to make him jealous and drive him absolutly crazy is if you could have a threesome with a lesbian that will turn more of her attention to you than to him.

 
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