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Old 01-26-2001, 11:39 AM   #1
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Sex in the middle of the night...

My husband-to-be wanted me to inquire about this and if it was abnormal or what it meant. I wonder too. Sometimes in the middle of the night I wake up because he is trying to have sex with me, I succumb to the action. Sometimes I have felt it would be hard to stop him if I wanted to though as it is sometimes has been fairly forceful. Though he is dead asleep. Most often he wakes fully half way through and we finish what has been started an go back to sleep like we would have hours ago. Sometimes this happens after we have already had sex that night. Often he doesn't remmber it until I say something about it, a few times, some of the scarier times, he doesn't remember anything (I believe him). He said (vaguely)that happened a couple times with his ex-wife too.
In the year and a half we have been having sex, we have never gone more than two days with out sex. Sometimes twice a day. I have never once yet refused him sex. It was getting very frequent then we moved to a different apt. (several months ago) and it stopped, until recently. I doesn't usually really bother me too much, it seems to be bothering him more now though. Hope someone can provide some feedback. Let me know if more info is needed.

 
Old 01-26-2001, 07:49 PM   #2
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Re: Sex in the middle of the night...

My husband wakes up in the middle of the night, when he is half asleep, and tries to have sex with me. Not all the time but it has happened before. He has never been forceful...I either want to do it , or I don't. I myself have had sex when I was half asleep, and have a hard time remembering it, but I still know I did. I guess it is normal, I am not sure about the being forceful part. I don't know if we are talking about the same thing, but I guess we are. Hope this helps.

 
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Old 02-03-2001, 05:32 PM   #3
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Re: Sex in the middle of the night...

A girl I dated a while back used to do this to me. I would wake up at 2 or 3:00 AM to her giving me a oral sex.


It was GREAT!!!

 
Old 02-03-2001, 09:37 PM   #4
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Re: Sex in the middle of the night...

As a man I love having mid-night sex wether it be full intercourse or oral. Although I have "poked" my partner a time or two I would never be forceful. If your guy truly doesn't know what he's doing and is letting his lower head take over, you need to wake him up before you agree to anything. Sounds like you might be afraid of his actions should you turn him down while he's in this sleep state.

There's nothing wrong with a quickie in the AM but not if it's forced.

Good luck with your issue.

 
Old 02-07-2001, 07:37 AM   #5
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Re: Sex in the middle of the night...

Hi Tempest..

I think that's perfectly normal, and just fine, as long as it isn't a problem for either of you. Is it by chance becoming one?

The one thing you said that could possibly raise a 'flag' is the forceful part, but you didn't go too far in details. Depending on the situation and the people involved, there is sometimes more of that sort of thing and sometimes less, and no particular level is right or wrong, as long as again, it's okay with all the parties involved.

Probably why your b/f is concerned about it is that it was a problem for the ex, and she said so. But that doesn't mean a thing between the two of you, unless it's also a problem for you. It's not abnormal or anything.

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Old 02-07-2001, 10:05 AM   #6
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Re: Sex in the middle of the night...

Thank you all for your responses, it has helped us relax about. Thanks.

 
Old 02-09-2001, 10:50 AM   #7
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Re: Sex in the middle of the night...

Obvious your man will read this post too but this is more or less directed to you. You say you know your man and believe him when he says he don't remember a thing about it. What are you going to believe when or if he goes out some night and gets drunk,doesn't come home and tells you the next day he doesn't remember a thing? Will this make things ok. Just make sure he is absolutly telling you the truth and has not just found a sexual fantasy. Fantasys are great but lying directly and purposly to you insn't fair! If you believe him and he believes himself I would suggest talking this over with your doctor.

 
Old 02-09-2001, 07:26 PM   #8
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Re: Sex in the middle of the night...

I agree, I don't see how someone could not remember trying to have sex with someone. What if you find out that he cheated on you, and he says he doesn't remember. Will that be okay with you. You should definetly tell a doctor about this, because its really not normal, and it could lead to more serious problems.

 
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Re: Sex in the middle of the night...

Whew!

Hmmmmm... Okay, if you guys say so..

But I have a real hard time connecting what she said, to someone being out there cheating.

That sort of thing happens all the time between couples who sleep together regularly, especially if the selected sleeping attire is either somewhat provocative or non-existant. Its quite normal to have those kinds of inclinations while vigorously sawing lumber, and recall may or may not be there, just like with dreams.

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Old 02-14-2001, 01:02 PM   #10
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Re: Sex in the middle of the night...

Thank you JollyRoger. Cheating is not an option, his ex-wife did that to him and he knows what that does to a person. Trust me on our situation. We where made for each other, there are no other options.
But thank you for JR for your post. Yes, we sleep naked. What you said makes sense.

 
Old 02-15-2001, 08:08 AM   #11
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Re: Sex in the middle of the night...

If you are reffering to me, I never said the man was cheating on her. Thank You

 
Old 02-15-2001, 11:48 AM   #12
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Re: Sex in the middle of the night...

Just wanted to let you know that my dh does it ALL the time. I don't know if he is half-sleeping because sometimes he's just about there by the time I wake up <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif"> But not always <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/biggrin.gif">

Usually when he's done, he'll kiss me on my forehead and I go back to sleep. I think it's normal.

If you are afraid about the forceful part, maybe he's just had a dream and just really into it when he hops on??? I wouldn't be worried.

Good luck and enjoy <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/wink.gif">

 
Old 02-15-2001, 06:08 PM   #13
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Re: Sex in the middle of the night...

'Twas my pleasure Ms Tempest.. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">

And I kinda figured that too.

Yup. Only way to snooze, eh? zzZZzZzz

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