| | Boyfriend can't maintain erection. Why? An what can I do?
He was 23 when he had penetrative sex for the first time (with me), I was 21 and had sex partners before him, I'm female.
During first 2 weeks he couldn't get it up at all, then he had trouble to maintain his erection, especially if we were changing positions. After two months of having sex he got better, and was actually superb for less than a month. Now it's about 4,5 months we are sexually active and for about 3 weeks he cannot maintain his erection, or it isn't hard enough to get inside.
He says he really wants me, that he loves me etc. He also says he is not gay, although he had some sexual experience with guys. He did say that sometimes he loses sensation during sex, and this is why he doesn't like me to be on top, because it's boring for him. When he's masturbating, he can get a perfect hard on and always orgasms. When I give him hand- or blowjob he never finishes, although it is easier for him to stay erect. He says though, that he doesn't want to masturbate that much because it's just a physical feeling and he enjoys the intimacy of the act.
He is looking for a job now, because his contact is ending this June, but he says it doesn't bother him.
To be honest, I don't want to have sex anymore because he can't satisfy me and gets upset everytime we try, but I want to help him. Any ideas?
Last edited by justsomeoneelse; 04-22-2011 at 08:57 AM.