Help! - Sexual Health - General Message Board

pixiedust02 · 07-16-2002, 12:28 AM

I'm new to sex and my boyfriend and I are having some difficulty. He is never able to finish. He says the condoms are too tight, but I don't know. I feel like I must be doing something wrong. I feel terrible, because I'm always able to finish.
Any tips on how to help him out??

Lance2 · 07-16-2002, 05:44 AM

This probably has nothing to do with you at all. I'd suspect that this is related to something in his head that is effecting him or the fact that his penis is trained to respond to his masturbation style etc. Don't laugh, that really happens. If that is what is happening then he'll have to work a bit at changing thing so his penis will respond to different stimulii and such. Much has been written on this site about this, I'd suggest that you send him here for some help understanding this from guys who've been there. If you're not comfortable bringing him here then the two of you need to work at how to bring him to orgasm and ejaculation in different ways as part of your sex life until things are better. Sure, it may also be related to the condom but keep using them!

Michael _aka_Sparky · 08-16-2002, 05:06 PM

Pixiedust, there are several different types of condoms. And they do come in a few different sizes in case he is well endowed. You can try different positions. I had problems with condoms at one time. For me, it was both position and learning to relax. I found I was getting to tence worrying about my orgasm, would the condom hold, etc. Don't be afraid to try new things. But most of all, relax and have fun. YES, have fun. I hope every thing works out. And if you feel like it, give us an update, but only if you feel like it.

Sparky