threesome?!? - Sexual Health - General Message Board

hardheadedb97 · 06-04-2002, 03:15 PM

Hey everybody! My husband and I have been talking about having a threesome (with another woman) for the past year and I have a few questions I was hoping to get some feedback on.
It is something I would like to try because I am curious and its something new-however I also know how much it would get my husband off. Does the fact that I want to try this make me bisexual or just curious? I never really thought of being with another woman until we started talking about it.
Also, is it possible to do this safely (I'm worried about STD's and such) and with no strings attached on the part of the other female? And where does a person go to find someone who might be interested in something like that? I have a friend who is bisexual and has expressed interest, but I don't know that I would feel comfortable doing this with her because it might ruin our friendship. But I'm also concerned about a total stranger because we wouldn't know the history of that person, and that's like playing Russian Roulette nowdays. Is this something that can be done without negative results on a marriage? Or does it cause more problems than its worth? Any feedback would be appreciated.
Thanks!!

flyfskm · 06-04-2002, 08:16 PM

my personal opinion would be that it's more trouble than it's worth. ask yourself this, would you be ok with WATCHING your husband have sex with another woman and KNOWING that he loves it? the next day, next week, next month, will you wonder if he thinks about her or if he's picturing her while having sex with you? to me, it wouldn't be worth it. like you said, i'd be worried about std's. i think i'd prefer to keep my husband to myself and not share! but to each their own!

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Lance2 · 06-05-2002, 03:38 AM

I'd be careful, one of my best buddies marriage ended after a threesome, his wife couldn't deal with the jealousy....the third party was a close friend of hers and they were always together, just too much to deal with for her.

hardheadedb97 · 06-05-2002, 10:44 AM

Hi everybody, thanks for the posts so far. I just wanted to take a sec to add a little info to my first post regarding this topic. In answer to your question, Kim, yes, it would bug me to watch my husband go at it with some other female so that's why at this point it would just be a spectator sport for him. He can watch, but he isn't supposed to touch her. (he can touch me all he wants!

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Anyways, we've talked about it(for over a year now) and have decided that there will be some ground rules to be followed if we do this. If the rules can't be agreed upon beforehand, then I won't do it--its as simple as that. Its still in the planning stages, and I just don't know if the worries are gonna be worth it, you know? I'd appreciate more feedback from you folks out there-has anyone done this and what were the consequences? Was it enjoyable or did the worries overshadow the whole experience?
Thank everyone!!

ana_24 · 06-05-2002, 10:55 AM

A threesome is not something I've experienced or am interested in since I couldn't stand it to see my guy with another woman or even looking at her in that context. However, to answer your question about how one would go about finding a partner, try lavalife. It is an online dating service. It has an Intimate Encounters section that will blow your mind.