Does anyone know why - Sexual Health - General Message Board

sillytycoo · 09-16-2002, 08:02 AM

I have an intresting question . My husband and I have been together for 10 yrs. on and off and thru out that time we often had sex several time thru out a week even when we weren't together.We have lived together for 3 yrs. We recently just got married back in May of this year. Now we hardly ever have sex just three times in one mnth . We are both in our late 20's so we are still young. My weight hasn't really changed since we gotten married . I could stand to lose a lose a few pounds but I have been like this for well over 10 yrs.I ask him why the lack of sex he's says it isn't me . But to honest not much has changed since we have gotten married except we hardly ever have sex anymore.Whenever I touch him sexual he backs away and he really doesn't touch me anymore. Does anyone know why this might be ? Has this happen to anyone else before? I feel like I've done something wrong , any ideas would be great.

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Lady^ · 09-16-2002, 12:06 PM

Hmmm, I had the same problem with my first husband...everything was great in the sack until we got married, then it just stopped happening. It tooks a few days before we even consumated our marriage! I made him get a physical, etc., but no problem was found. The few times we did have sex it was over in about 30 seconds cause of how long it had been since the last time. His problem wasn't physical...his eqipment worked fine. It was mental. He just didn't want to do it anymore once I was his wife. Right before I left him I talked to his ex-wife and she said she went through the exact same thing...and he was in his early 20's at the time! He has no problem screwing a girlfriend but doesn't want to do it to his wife. Some sort of mental issue, I guess, but I wasn't gonna live like that.

sillytycoo · 09-16-2002, 02:03 PM

Thanks for the advice I never heard of anything like that before but, it makes sense . I just hope that's not the case with my husband . It really seems like a mental thing because everything works fine it just he never wants it.

Sillytyoo

magee · 09-18-2002, 04:04 AM

I had this boyfriend, and our sex life was great. He couldn't keep his hands off me. He wanted me to move in with him, and I asked him if he would make love to me every night. He said yes. Well, almost immediately, the sex dried up. He'd say he was too tired, we'll do it in the morning... I'd wake up and he'd be out raking leaves or something. We'd have sex maybe once a month. I was very patient. There was nothing wrong with his equipment, either, and he'd wake up with a hard-on every morning. He just wouldn't do anything with it. I don't know if it was because he saw me in a "mother/wife" role, or if it was a case of, once he got me where he wanted me, he didn't give bother to try anymore. I finally left him.

niecsey · 09-18-2002, 06:57 AM

youve got to remember that all the excitment naturally wears off after a while, its up to the couple to make it work, maybe hes stressed, or his sex drive has fallen. l think its just as i said the first 'getting to know you' years have gone by if its a prob talk to him make him listen good luck