Porn - is this normal?? - Sexual Health - General Message Board

Lisa1171 · 08-01-2002, 12:14 PM

Hi, I would love to hear anyone's opinion on this. My boyfriend of 4 years downloads porn from the internet almost everyday when I am not home. He sometimes deletes them before I get home. Do you think its normal for him to do this or is it something I should worry about? We have a very good sex life. He says that he is very happy about it. We talk very openly about sex and everything related to it. Is this just something people like to look at. I mean I am not saying its bad. Some of it turns me on too, but could this be a problem what he is doing?

F-Man · 08-01-2002, 02:25 PM

I'm not sure how you define "normal" but if you're asking it is common and standard behavior to view pornagraphy on a daily basis, then I would say it is not normal. I don't have any survey to back this up, but I would guess, that the vast, vast majority of people do not view porn daily. Abnormal doesn't mean bad, necessarily.

Is it something to worry about? I'd say probably not. I guess if you posted here, you must be at least a little concerned. You said you have very open and honest communication with your man, particularly with regard to sex so my suggestion is you discuss this with him. I guess basically if it causing a problem for your relationship then its a problem. If its not then its not. sounds kind of simple, but maybe it is just that simple.

I would guess its only a problem if it is becoming an obsession with him. Any obsession can be a problem, not just sexual ones. If someone is neglecting other aspects of their life so they can view porn all day, then thats a problem. Or if they are viewing stuff like kiddie porn, or bestiality or really bizarre stuff. If he's into bizarre sex that you're not into and that is why he views internet porn, that could be a problem. It doesn't sound like any of that is the case, so I wouldn't be concerned.

ANiceGirl · 08-01-2002, 07:40 PM

My husband looks at porn all the time and I couldn't care less. Heck, I look at it too sometimes. If it turns you on, why not look at it with him? It might do great things for your sex life.. As long as he is not obsessing over it or needing it to orgasm, then I see no harm in it. Good luck,
A Nice Girl

ice_tornado · 08-05-2002, 04:44 PM

i think looking at porn is normal, i mena my g/f doesnt care if i look at it every once and awhile, its just normal

Lindarella · 08-06-2002, 12:27 PM

If he's deleting it before you get home, why? Is he afraid you'll be mad? Is he ashamed?

I guess since you're asking for opinions, mine is that it's not normal for someone to download porn every day when their girlfriend isn't home. What makes it more "not normal" is his need to delete it. If he thought it was normal he wouldn't delete it.