Anal Sex Problems - Sexual Health - General Message Board

Disposition · 06-30-2002, 08:58 PM

Okay let me start off by saying, my partner and I ALWAYS use LOTS of lube, that's not my concern.
But the first time we tried this, it did hurt alot when he was going in, but after he was in it was smooth sailing and it felt incredible.
Any other time we've even attempted this after the first time, it's at least 20 times more painfull when he tries to go in, and I can't even stand it it hurts so much that I make him pull right back out. There isn't any rippingaround my anus, like I said we use loads of lube but I don't understand why it's so painfull now, when it wasn't at all before.
I really want to please him and I know he likes doing anal sex (and so DID I when we got it the first time), but I feel bad that I can't do it anymore.
Why the sudden change? I mean, shouldn't it be the other way around where it hurt a lot the first time but it gets easier after?
I just don't get it.
And I really want to get it again.
I just don't want to go through the tears of PAIN it brings anymore.
(by the way we've tried lots of different positions including doggy style, me on the bottom, etc and I'm plenty relaxed and such).
Thanks for any help.

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baldie · 07-01-2002, 02:27 AM

hey disposition,

try using small things first, and go bigger then. maybe you want it that much, you cannot stand it. like you are relaxed and all, but the nerves are there, under your skin. without you knowing about them.
i would try smaller things first.

nincee · 07-01-2002, 09:04 AM

I also enjoy, but have found it best when I am in TOTAL control http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/bang.gif http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/idea.gif you need to be on top, and tell him to stay completely still http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/heart.gif which can be a turn on, and you guide him to the edge, after lubed, and rub him back and forth until you are ready and just insert the tip, only, and relax, once your body has accepted, just slowly, and I do mean slowly, lower yourself down until you feel comfortable, after you are going at it, you can change positions if you like, but this one is my favorite. I need to know I am in total control to be comfortable enough to relax and enjoy. Good Luck!

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Bizaare · 07-01-2002, 02:52 PM

You need to be completely relaxed and totally into it. I know it still hurts with my husband but thats when Im a little tense. Just slow down and maybe let him use his finger to relax ya first. Works for me.

Good Luck!
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Teri beri · 07-20-2002, 08:02 PM

i dont think i could even bring myself to TRY it