My thoughts and my battle - Sexual Health - General Message Board

Flompy1 · 09-13-2002, 01:03 PM

Hi everyone.

Some of you might remember that i posted earlier on this forum (under the nick Flompy) about my insecurities due to my penis size and my previous conditions (scars due to surgery as a child etc).
Reading what a lot of you guys and gals said, i must say that it helped me quite a bit.

I met a girl who i love very much, and our first time together didn't go quite as well for me as i would have hoped. I couldn't get a full erection, i was nervous, i couldn't relax and i couldn't reach orgasm. I told her i was really sorry, but she didn't think any of it at all. We could only have one week together then (long distance relationship at the moment). I went to see her again recently and we spent 2 weeks together and everything was pure heaven. Emotionally and sexually. After my first less-than-perfect attempt, i seeked advice here and it helped me alot. Thank you again guys.

I didn't worry about my size or anything when i was with her. We enjoyed ourselves incredibly much. I only care about her, and i do my best using my fingers, tounge and penis. She tells me that i am the best she has had (no bragging intended here). My penis is only a modest 5.5", wich i think is on the small side. She is asian, and has only had asian boyfriends before. I never believed the racial differences in that departement were true though..but..she tells me that my penis is big. I was quite shocked.

When we have sex, if i push myself all the way into her, she said it hurts and gives me a quick slap on the leg or back. This is making me really confused because what is true in this world..really? If you look at pornography you see guys with enourmous penises which, quite frankly, gives me a serious insecurity problem for a while. My penis looks like a toothpick compared to what you can see on movies or pictures. And these guys can put their whole penis into the woman without her giving a grimace or anything???

I am more than happy to be enough for my girlfriend. But sometimes i feel so insecure about myself and my penis due to what you can see on tv,movies or the internet. And let's not forget what you read on the internet. I wish i could have one of those 7-8-9"..maybe i wouldn't feel insecure from time to time. But then again....if my girlfriend says it hurt when i put all of my 5.5" inside her...what good would a 7-8-9" do for me or her? I am really confused about all this, and i was hoping you guys here at the forum would give me your input on these matters. I've been looking into these penile exercises, but i dont know....does it work?

Thanks for your time,
Flompy1

[This message has been edited by Flompy1 (edited 09-13-2002).]

ana_24 · 09-13-2002, 01:43 PM

OK, is anyone else getting tired of the "I think my penis is too small" insecure posts??? Come on GUYS!!! You are NORMAL! Once and again, anything between 5 and 6 is average!! What you see in porns is NOT natural and NOT average. Plus, every woman's body is made differently, it could be that your girlfriend is petite and that reflects in her vagina as well. I think you guys should all just stop worrying about your penis sizes, especially when you're normal. If you have a 3 inch penis, ok, then ask questions and be insecure but enough with the... "I have a 5.5 inch penis and I think it's too small!" speeches. There's more to life than penis size!
So there! I hope I don't get too much abuse for this, I didn't mean to attack you personally, I just meant this as a reply to men in general.

Snagglepuss · 09-15-2002, 10:19 PM

OMG ana! thank you! i am not the only who thinks that! finally someone on my side thank you!!

my bf is 6.5 or something like that he told me but i 4got lol and he thinks he's small http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/rolleyes.gif bugs me so much ahaha but finally theres someone who agrees with me about the stupid "im to small speaches"

Fearless · 09-16-2002, 08:40 PM

Hi Flompy,, I will not agree to go about things alongside the two previous posters, my gawdddd girls,, lets mature here.
Flompy, you are fine. You are of average, and lucky to have that. My bf is 6'3 240 and 5". Ive had 8-9-10-11,, ITS ALL IN THE EMOTIONS , THE CAREING, THE LOVING, THE SENSUALITY AND ROMANCE ALONG WITH PASSION THAT GETS ME. Its not the penis size by anymeans. Granted I may get an initial 'high' on the thought, the feel, the look of a large penis, its fantasy, not actuality. Flompy, you seem to be a caring, loving, concerned individual,, THAT is what will take you in life places that will reassure you that 'the woman' in your life will find the most utmost feature of you. Stop worrying, put all the 'negative force' into positives.

lascot · 09-16-2002, 11:58 PM

don't worry. for all the anxiety you feel, your girlfriend is possibly having the same feelings about one or another part of her anatomy. your heart is in the right place. that is all you need.