suprising a tired boyfriend? - Sexual Health - General Message Board

equivocated · 10-04-2002, 09:22 PM

hey...

my boyfriend has been in a working rut lately, working up to 78 hours a week to try and afford car payments, and i wanted to know if anyone had any ideas about how i could give him a sexual surprise. (that i will enjoy, too!

lately, i've been giving him massages, blowjobs, and sex where he has to do no work at all... and i TOTALLY understand that he's wiped out, but we went from having sex about 4 times a week... down to about 1 time a week if we're lucky. i rarely have fun anymore, and rarely have an orgasm. once again, though... i don't want to be pushy, because i know how tired he always is.

i just wanted to know if anyone had any ideas/suggestions that could make this work better?

thanks.

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i guess i can't edit the title after writing it. i hate spelling mistakes.

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equivocated · 10-06-2002, 09:03 AM

great idea! he'd love that... morning sex is his favourite sex, (he's said.)

now, i just have to get in the mood because i'm SOOOO not a morning person.

ezmoneymuchfun · 10-07-2002, 02:53 PM

Equiv lady,

You are unbeliveably wonderful. No words could express the thoughts that come to a guy's mind when reading about your affection for your guy. Far and away above the "call of duty".

Your message doesn't say a lot about him which is appropriate. He must be quite a guy to have someone like you. I just hope that he understands and appreciates you for all you do (not just in sexual terms).

I am in awe!

Hadom79 · 10-27-2002, 12:31 PM

You certainly are special,
My job as of the last 6 months has required about 84 hours a week. During a busy week I will work as much as 104 hours. It seems crazy but its true. I am in the US Armed forces. Thats the nature of the mission for some of us. But even after work I am still up doing things. Its a matter of training and conditioning the body. How fit is he? Does he eat well? Does he eat carbs, which break down over a period of time rather than simple sugars which cause the sugar level of the blood to fluctuate, thus causing fatigue? Does he get his daily dose of vitiamins and minerals? Is he taking any supplements?
Is there a way for him to cut back on the hours? How often does he get time off? These are issues the two of you should adress not only for your shared sex life, but for his general health as well.
i get the impression that you a very caring and understanding GF. Kudos to you. Thats awesome. If you have a solid relationship you should be able to communicate your feelings on this one. If he is half as understanding as you then the two of you will be able to work this one out. Good Luck!!

Elret · 10-27-2002, 01:28 PM

I find it hard to get in the mood in the morning too, Equiv, but my guy is a big fan of morning-sex, so I try to wake him up with a blow job or me on top of him as often as I can. Something I find helps me to get in the mood is to make sure I wake up before him and then sneak into the bathroom for a quick freshen-up. I find just brushing my teeth, running a brush through my hair, and splashing some cold water on my face makes a big difference.

Speaking of surprising guys though, anybody have any advice for a fun surprise for a guy who isn't necessarily too tired? I've tried acting out his fantasies for him (complete with costumes), fancy lingerie, toys, food, inviting him to a nice dinner and wearing nothing but an apron the whole time I cook and while we eat. He always seems to enjoy it when I come up with something new and different, anyone have any ideas?

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