I have to agree with trying the different techniques & lubes. Try one hand, both hands. Your hands in different positions. You can use materials such as real soft cotton or nylons. Experimenting is a part of the pleasure. And yes, even phone sex. Right after my divorce was final (several years back) I was on the phone with a good friend. We had been friends for some time & both started talking about sex. She asked what I would enjoy, I asked her. One thing lead to another and we masterbated over the phone. We did it two more times during the week. We only had phone sex, but both agreed, it was quite pleasurable.

The point is to have fun.
Sparky
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