 Body not responding?
My boyfriend and I have a great sex life but of course, since the relationship is still fairly new (approx. 4 months), there is still room for improvement.
A couple of nights ago, he decided that he wants me to tell him what I like/don't like when he's touching me or performing oral on me. I generally will tell him anyway if there is something I don't like but I thought, hey, that's a great idea! Except, when we started doing it, it felt like an instruction session and all the fun drained out of it. Also, there were a couple of things I told him to do like instead of putting pressure on the clit with one finger to use two and rub all over. Well, he did that just fine except that's ALL he was doing... I didn't mean for him to stop everything else and do just that. It felt like such an instructional session and it wasn't going all that well, I got a bit frustrated and my sex drive was gone! No matter what, my body wasn't responding and I stopped and basically told him that I'm not into it and that he was doing just fine before and we didn't need to have this exercise so to speak. I probably didn't handle things the best way possible but I just couldn't bring myself to enjoy it. Also, I feel like he wants me to talk more and interact more verbally in bed but that's just not me. I'm very experimental and fun in bed, I don't just lie there like a stick but I AM kind of quiet! I can't change that, it's just the way I am. The only time I get loud is when I'm about to orgasm. How do I make him understand that just because I'm not yelling and screaming and moaning and talking, I'm enjoying myself? Is it a turn off to men if the woman is more on the quiet side???
Also, how do I tell him what I like without taking all the fun out of it? Now I feel like the next time we have sex it'll be so stressful. Things were going soooo well, why am letting this bothering me so much??
[This message has been edited by ana_24 (edited 03-21-2003).]
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