Roger100

Since 3 weeks I have gone out with a new woman and I really like her. Yesterday she told me that she had only recently broken up with her ex but that he still visits her everyday. I got very jealous and when she did not answer my calls I got very worried and even more jealous and was expecting the worst.
But to be honest I don't love her yet and I sometimes worry that we don't have enough in common to have a relationship for live.

Last night after sex she told me that I need not worry and how much she loves me and that it was more than love and she never felt so strongly for anybody. She does not know why she is feeling this so soon. When I said nothing she started crying a lot because she said it too early.
I wish she had not told me. Now I feel guilty because I may have to end this relationship and that will break her heart. But I don't want to get out yet and I still want to try to learn to love her. But today I feel so guilty and that will make it even more difficult to love her.

It was shown that poeple love the people even more when they feel rejected. So maybe it is best to tell her I love her and then she will love me less. Maybe saying and prentending will make me love her. Anybody have experience with this. I don't.

I think I confuse love for others with rejection since I have never loved anybody I was with - but always loved women that I wanted to be with. Exceptions are flings that lasted only a week or two . But then there were too many other exciting factors like anxiety, curiosity and lust involved.